Would you ever end a relationship on a gut instinct rather than solid evidence?

[Yummum19]

I've been seeing a guy for just over a year now but for various reasons only been in an official relationship for a couple months.

Back when we were just seeing someone he slept with someone else but he told me straight away, apologised profusely and it was something I felt at the time I could put behind me.

Fast forward to now and things (i thought) were going great. However Friday night he went out for work drinks and I didn't hear from him then until Saturday morning. He claims he stayed at a friends house but left at 5 in the morning as he couldn't sleep.

I instantly didn't believe him, I just got a gut feeling he was lying. If it's worth mentioning the previous case of him cheating happened exactly the same.. He went out, ended up staying out all night, claimed he stayed with a mate and turned out he had spent the night with a female.

Is it enough to end a relationship with a man I love purely on gut feeling with no real evidence to suggest he has cheated? Or should I drop it and put it down to me being paranoid because of past experiences?

I'm asking for different viewpoints on this as I'm hoping you can give me a wake up call - whichever answer it may be.

[Plantlover101]

Haven't read the full thread, but women have a sixth sense for these things, and I would put money on your hunch being right.

Twenty years ago I was living with my then-fiance and had one of those funny feelings that he was up to no good. I asked him outright if he was having an affair and he looked me in the eye and said "No, I'd never do that."

Very soon after, I left anyway. And when he rang me up in tears, begging me to give it another go, I said No.

He married another woman five months later - the one I suspected he'd been carrying on with, but I didn't know the full truth until eight years later, when my sister told me that she'd known what was going on but didn't tell me (that's a whole other story!)

More recently, I had another one of those funny feelings - and decided to check up on my now-ex. I caught him on a dating website by posting a fake profile and messaging him.

Someone said to me - you should never have bothered trying to catch him out because the minute you started to mistrust him to that degree, it was already over.

It's hard to accept but it is a fair point. Some people may just need the proof to end it.

But ultimately, we have these feelings for a reason. In my experience, my "body" always knew about an OW before my brain did. Take your cue from your insecurity - the chances are, it is telling you something important.