Totally don't know what to about DH anymore....

[Fedupd0tcom]

Hi.

So tonight I've basically spent the last 2 hours alone.

My DH and I are in the home....but I have been alone.

This happens most evenings. There hasn't been a row or anything. We've just done our own thing. Or rather he has...

I wouldn't mind only it's been going on for a few years. We have a lot of stress as I'm also a carer to my Mum and I struggle to get on with ILs, which adds tension. He also works long hours and isn't well sometimes with exhaustion. However I also work, albeit pt, and that plus juggling being Mum and a carer floors me.

But we never want to do anything together. On the extremely rare occasion we get a babysitter neither of us makes plans or knows what to do. I used to....I booked us in to see a musical and go stay at a posh hotel ages ago. I used to always plan things we could do. Book all our trips away
But now I've stopped as he does none of this.

Basically I'm fed up. This feels like an empty marriage. Maybe I'm being an unreasonable b1tch. He's a decent man and great father to our LO. But I can't take much more. We went marriage counselling.... waste of time...he didn't want to continue. He says he doesn't want me to leave but if I do he won't/can't stop me.

The physical side of our relationship is non existent. No basic affection or cuddles... let alone much else.

I know it's football season and to be expected...but I'm so fed up and feel v alone. AIBU?

Horse & Cart. Emotional Affair/Unhappy Marriage. What's past is past. It's unimportant now.

Your DC will be much better off if you split now and don't grow up in this hostile environment. Children aren't oblivious to adult interaction & tension. You can be better parents individually than you can together.

You deserve to be happy, life's not a trial run. You aren't happy - you have the power to change that. It's not always easy being on your own, but it's always a hell of a lot better than being in a relationship where you are lonely.

I know you want more kids, give yourself a chance to meet someone else and have a baby, don't hope you can band aid this enough to have another child.

Find the strength & courage to do what you know you need to do.

It won't be as hard as you are imagining, yes it will involve work, stress and upset but you don't have a marriage anyway, and as others have said, it sounds like he checked out long ago, do you want to wait for him to get in toe with OW cos that might very well happen.

Why do you want to continue in a soul less relationship for your LO, there's nothing there to impress or show as a good example, it sounds crap OP, and you are entitled to be happy.

The emotional affair was wrong, I think you both should have split up before now tbh.

"Your emotional affair probably broke the marriage. Sorry, but I don't buy into blaming the other partner."

Well, I don't blame you. I really don't understand why women have to put up with so much shit from their partners and still be told that they are to blame for a bad marriage because they dared to notice someone else could treat them with more respect.

OP, call it a wake up call.