Been 2 days now and i found out that my partner of 7 years has been unfaithful. I'm not the type of person to snoop and i only picked up his phone to turn the Alarm off in the morning and seen messages on his pone. We are suppose to be getting married in october and just moved house so it has been a stressfull few months for me as i'm dealing with all the builders and sorting the wedding stuff out on my own ( no help from family, i'm basically on my own doing all of it). When i confronted him he said that they are just friends. Then i ask him if anything has happened and apparently they have kissed. He said this is the only time they have kissed and stoped it and felt guilty. He said that he needed a friend to talk to becuase he was feeling down. For months i've been asking him to speak to me and communicte with me. He comes home from work and is glued to his phone playing games or watching sport. Never comes to bed with me and stays up late. He is suppose to be my best friend and i feel soo alone now. Don't know who i can talk to about this. He keeps telling me it was all going to stop and it meant nothing it was just friends and he should of come to me and he regrets everything.
What i can't get over is one of the message he told her he loves her. He said he only said it as friends. I think thats whats hurting the most that he has told some other women that he loves her. He claims he isn't in love with her and he was seeking attention. He swears on his life that it was all going to end and that he was much happier in our relationship and excitited about our future. Yet last week on my birthday and on the day we gave notice of marriage and booked our honeymoon he told her the same week that he loves her. We also start talking about trying for children after the honeymoon.
I have no idea what to do and i feel soo stupid for still wanting to marry him. We have been best friends for 13 years and i can't just let that go. He keeps telling me he loves me and wants to be with and still wants to get married. He wants to work through this and said about going to coucilling sessions to help us get past this.
But i'm scared the wedding is in 3 month. I got so many questions in my head. I don't know how i'm suppose to act or what i'm suppose to. I just feel soo angry and hurt. My world has been turned upside down. How do i get through this? Can couples come out of this stronger?
I don't want to be one of them people who stops him from going out or keep checking his phone. He has already said that he won't go to anything if she is there and has already deleted everything like contacts etc.
I've never been in this situation before and what ever i decide effects the rest of my life. I'm so scared and feel soo sick.