Hi. So I had been in a relationship for 6 months (with a woman, although not sure that matters) and all was going great. I fell in love with her.
About 5 months into the relationship I started having doubts as she would cancel plans last minute, which is fine, but it was always done in a cold, matter of fact way. She would get moody (coincided with period coming up) which I let go.
Eventually, it came to a head over one week when on the Sunday she text me at 7 saying that she wasn't coming up today cos she was tired (she'd been out all afternoon in the pub drinking) she was meant to be here at 7. I told her I wasn't happy. On the Tuesday I went up to hers and she said she was tugging with money so would only be able to come up once a week, I said that's ok, but I would pay if she was struggling. Then on the thurs she came round, all seemed fine, then at around 8 she said she was going home cos it felt weird. I said don't leave, let's talk about it, she said no she was leaving. Anyway, I ended it.
Regretted it the next day, told her I didn't want us to end, that I loved her, she said no she doesn't play games, it's over.
2 weeks later she stayed the night at mine, same again the following Sunday. This weekend, I saw her both sat and Sunday night, she wants us to get back together, I say ok, we are back together. Should be fine, except it's not, she seems cold and moody again (period is due) doesn't make as much of an effort as she used to with calling or texting. Ok, it can take time to get back to normal.
The main issue is, that just before we broke up I found out that she is gambling, using online bingo sites. She also spent £200 on scratch cards which was the last of her wage, I suspect this was a huge contributing factor to our breakup and her moods. Then this Sunday it turns out she gambled her last £350 on fruit machines. She said she's always had a problem with it, it was under control, but it's back.
What do I do? I really love her and it hurts so much the thought of us not being together but is it worth it? I really don't know what to do. She's been so cold and distant this last few days and I'm sure it's because she's feeling down because of the gambling, but I don't want this every month.
My kids love her, and I love her son, they all get on great and if all used to be so so good, but things have changed and I don't know if they will get back to normal again.
Sorry about the long post by the way, thanks for reading this far!