a ring

[vkp25]

hi all,
I'm brand new to this website so wondered if you could help!

just some advice really:

I've been in relationship with the man of my dreams (cheesy I know) for 2 year and almost 7 months.

We now live together and my birthday is coming up:

he asked what I want and I said nothing but a ring, bear in mind I'm the least materialistic person ever and I spend so much on others and never expect anything in return.

Past few weeks he's not asked again what I want for birthday and he normally asks nonstop as being a typical man he needs to know exactly what to buy and where to buy it! so I've assumed he's getting a ring!

tonight he asked what I want! I couldn't believe it after all this time (my bday is in 21 days) I said I told U before I wont repeat it.

he just replied well u never want anything
now I'm upset and hiding that but he's asking if hes done something wrong and I'm saying no

what do I do??

I would ask him again, tell him the sort of thing you want and make it clear it's not supposed to be an engagement ring.

Or just go with him. My DH is a bit clueless!

You need to be very clear you are not asking for an engagement ring! But you are being very precious, just 21 days till your birthday. You honestly sound like my 4 year old.

How much do you Normally spend on each others birthday? Maybe show him some links in that price range.

'I want a ring' Well, If I were a bloke I would think engagement ring.
Maybe he went quiet because he doesn't want to buy you 'a ring'. He asked you again (hoping for another answer?) and you gave him the same answer as before - sort of.
Why the mind games? Just ask for some GHDs or something and put him out of his misery.

Just 21 days!!

I've been married a very long time. I don't play games. I remind my dh about birthdays and anniversaries etc and if I want a specific present I will tell him and email him an idea or two. He then buys it if he remembers.

This system has served us well.

I agree with latter posts. If you've discussed marriage and it's not for you and now you want 'a ring' he may have thought you want an engagement ring. Did you say a ring on purpose hoping he'd change his mind and propose? Maybe that's what he thinks you're doing?

Be clear with him if it's not. You just want a ring with no other motives than something now to wear on your hand then when you get it scare him shitless by wearing it on your left ring finger!

You definitely need to make yourself clearer.
Poor bloke is probably in complete panic.
Tell him which finger you would like a ring for, what size and what kind of style. Make sure you tell him it is a dress ring you want.

I thought you meant engagement ring too. I think it's a bit rotten to send the guy out with such a vague instruction. He won't know where to start. Send him to a particular shop and tell him the ones you like...maybe a selection.

Yes as PP said...you need ring size too. If you go into the shop first you can try for size and pick out a few options.

I always just send him a few I like and ask him to pick one for me. Easiest way, he has no idea about jewellery and he'd rather get me something I actually want.

Poor guy thinks you're demanding for him to ask you to marry him. Take a few screenshots of rings you like, send them to him with your ring size, tell him "Sorry, I just realised it looks like I wanted an engagement ring!!!" and crack on with your life.
Also 21 days is ages away, I'm surprised he's asked you twice already what you want! My birthday is on Saturday and my DH asked last week his was yesterday and I got his on Sunday.