Hi all, thank you for taking the time to read this. I am a 41 year old married woman, married for 4 years. I have one grown up child not living at home so just my husband and I together at home. We have been together 6 years, married for 4. During our time together we had as many up's as we have had downs. Just recently its been getting worse. We argue over the smallest thing. I feel he picks me up on things at every opportunity whereas I try not do this as I know its helpful to us getting on. We are no longer intimate, he hasn't touched me, kissed me, held my hands for months and we haven't had sex since December 2015. I feel totally alone, all our friends and family see us as a couple who get on and enjoying life - we can put on a great act when we need to. I am embarrassed to talk to anyone about the state of our marriage. My husband wont go to Relate etc. and he blames me for our marriage problems. We can't talk without him trying to put the blame on me. I don't know which way to turn at the moment, he mentioned divorce today and that isn't something I want, I want to fight to make my marriage work. I am not sure what I want from being on this forum, I guess I just wanted to say all of this to someone, anyone as in 'real life' I can't ever imagine being able to do so. The one person I should be able to talk to, my husband, couldn't me any more distant... Thanks for reading.