So my husband has a night out coming up, where he will be going to the races. His friend invites him every year, most times he's gone bar the odd once or twice where he hasn't. Anyway our baby is gonna only be 4 weeks old. We also have 4 other children. My problem is that the baby doesn't settle very well night or day. He doesn't like his cot so I'm up most of the night holding him whilst my husband just sleeps and because I'm breastfeeding I'm the one doing all the work. Every time I talk about how much I'm struggling my husband says ' you wanted a baby' so I'm supposed to just deal with it. This week he is doing a night shift Monday so I'll be alone with baby and these nights are hard because I have my other kids to sort out as well as preparing for the school run, then taking the kids to school the next day on about 1-2 hours Sleep. Then Tuesday and Wednesday he goes to the gym in evening and Thursday he will be going to the races so all week I will be tired, alone with lack of sleep whilst he gets To live his life as normal. Is this really fair? I've told him I would like him to cancel his night out but he won't, I also can't have him sleeping in my bed with me after he's had a drink because the odd time I'm co- slept With the baby. So if he comes back drinks and comes to bed I'll have to battle with him to sleep downstairs instead and I'll be up even more trying to avoid falling asleep whilst feeding baby in bed. I just think it's too soon for him to be going out drinking and leaving me at home. So would any of you bother your husband resuming his life 4 weeks after birth whilst yours is on hold.