Online dating... But I'm nervous about a guy seeing me undressed!

[Sibbi2]

Basically I'm online dating, I'm in my early 20s. I'm okay looking and can scrub up well with make-up etc. But essentially I am (and have always been) quite paranoid about how I look and have several body image issues (who doesn't I guess)...

One of these is related to my breasts. I haven't let a guy really see them IRL before. Okay, well I did once and he commented on how petite they were They're more than that, they're small and strange and not a nice shape. I really dislike them and I think they're a tad malformed actually. That is something I'm working on however.

My question is... Is it weird if, when things get to that stage, I keep my bra on? It's got me down so much that not only am I still a virgin (have got to that stage but hasn't happened), that the thought makes me feel extremely nervous and self-conscious. I would so prefer to buy a really nice bra and keep it on... But is that really weird? Be honest.

I do think that keeping your bra on can make him wonder why and in the end both of you may pay more attention to it than you should. I think you should not plan anything in advance, buy act naturally and see what comes and how you feel.
I honestly think you won't care about that when things get hot and good (and when you realize he isn't perfect as well, as nobody is).
Go for it open minded and follow your heart.

I was in my mid-twenties, a virgin, and had major body insecurities (especially when it came to cellulite on my legs). Went a slightly less traditional route for my first time and had sex with a not close friend who I was interested in romantically. It could easily have not turned into a relationship so I don't necessarily recommend it. But even as just friends, he didn't care a bit about my "imperfections." He loved every part of me, especially my legs. Talk about a shocker! Any decent guy will appreciate you for you. As an added perk, I found I was more confident after I had done it. Celebrate your body (easier said than done I know) and try to enjoy it without worrying too much.

I know exactly how you feel.
I'm massively self conscious and the doctor has confirmed that my left breast is underdeveloped.
I could have surgery to correct it but at the minute I'm ok.
I lost my mum to breast cancer and I would prefer not to have surgery so I can always check for lumps etc.
A ex actually dumped me because i liked to keep my bra on.
Oh well he's loss.
Your breasts don't define you and without sounding like Oprah they don't make you any less a woman.
If any guys you meet don't like you for you and not your breasts you don't want them anyway.

And no it's not weird to keep your bra on if it makes you feel good.
After the dickhead I met a guy who wouldn't of cared if I had kept a polo neck on lol
It's about the guy
Hope you find a good one

Online dating can be ruthless so I would suggest that it is probably not the best way forward for you, especially if you are a virgin. Is there anyway you could meet someone in real life? Perhaps join a club or by personal introduction?

As for you breasts, are you sure they are a strange shape? It could be that there is nothing wrong with them at all and it's all in your imagination. Strange though it may sound lots of people have hang ups about various parts of their body when they are in fact completely normal. It might help you to see your GP or a nurse at your local surgery and discuss the matter if you're feeling insecure. My guess is your breasts are completely normal.

Thanks all. No I'm actually quite enjoying the online dating, have been on a lot of dates and trying that along with the traditional route. Not looking for a boyfriend per se, more just see how things go! But equally don't want to feel like shit haha. The way I look at it, it's all an experience and has been pretty fun!