Not sure if I'm overreacting....

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Me and dh used to work for the same place. Today a very good friend of mine rang up to tell me that an email had gone round stating that in a next few days some employees may receive letters threatening redundancy.
I emailed dh to ask him if he'd heard about this. He said he had but wasn't going to tell me until he had got one of the letters or not (they will arive tomorrow or Wednesday).
I feel sad that he didn't tell me although I know it's because he thought it would cause me unnecessary worry if he doesn't get a letter. I said I thought he should have told me anyway as his wife and friend.
What do you think?

Sometimes you are damned if you do, damned if you don't. He wouldn't have not told you to hurt you... but to spare any worry. I'd just let it lie xXx

That's what I am doing but I sort of feel like 'a problem shared is a problem halved'. He's obviously a bit concerned and it seems a shame that he didn't feel able to share his worries for worrying me iyswim.

it sounds like he was being kind and saving you unnecessary worry. even if he had told you it was on the cards, you cld have done nothing until/if a letter arrived.
he maybe wld have told you when he got back from work, face-to-face anyway.
don't give it another thought and i hope his job is secure

thnaks Devonshire. I guess I'm bing a bit silly, thought we should share everything!!

I know what you are saying about a problem shared, but are you the worrying type?? if you are I would imagine that's why he didn't say anything.

well I am worrying now!!

chill out

Exactly. Which proves he was right to not burden you with it. Shame your friend had to tell you really.

I'm sure he was doing it for the absolute best of reasons, but I'm like you, I'd rather know. It's a bit of stereotypically male thing to do as well isn't it - suspect I wouldn't be physically capable of keeping that sort of news to myself. Think blokes often clam up if they're nervous too...Sounds like he's probably nervous and maybe not thinking normally? Think I'd try and cut him some slack...