Trying to keep this fairly brief otherwise I'd write an entire essay! Dd has just turned one. We have had a very difficult year in many ways but Dd has been fab throughout. She is a brilliant little thing. Decided we were going to have a little party for her with a few friends from playgroup and our families.
Parents show up with faces like slapped arses. This is not unusual but they seem to cheer up a bit. They give us a card with 30 quid in it for Dd (not a criticism, relevant later). A good time is had, most people leave and I invite all grandparents to stay for tea. Pils can't so it's just us and parents. I thought we had a lovely time opening DDs presents and catching up. Later that night (so still DDs birthday!) I receive an email from them saying:
-DD wasnt grateful enough for her present (she's one! Money has no meaning!)
-Pils are showing off by buying her fancy stuff (an heirloom dolls house, plus bits and pieces)
-first birthdays should be just family
-i should remember that they are old and might be dead soon, and prioritise their feelings
-my house is not tidy enough (my house is clean and tidy, honest! , but not to my mothers ten hours a day cleaning standards)
-it was not fair how much time they got with dd
I don't know, this probably sounds not that bad but it is in the context of them always making every single event about themselves. And I feel like I'll look back and instead of remembering DDs birthday nicely, it'll be the day when they sent me a nasty email. I haven't responded because I'm worried I'll send back something horrible. I don't know what to do.