I had a thread on here when I found out back in February. Basically through our relationship DH had been having very flirty text conversations with a female friend of his who I'd never met, its under this username.
He blocked her on Facebook, deleted her number. A month later she messaged him through a different account, which he ignored. When I saw it I blocked that account too (it was just 2 messages, she said she was sad about being blocked but wasn't persistent).He ignored it as my aunt had died and he was busy being there for me so didn't mention it, just ignored. He has had a lot of counselling over the past few months about his ego-issues and self-esteem that led to this; as a result he is a much nicer person to be married to I have to say (generally less grumpy, more positive etc as it helped with a lot).
But I just can't get over it. I'd been ill for a while (totally wiped out by vitamin d deficiency), but now I'm a lot better - I have a concentration span and some energy again, my sex drive has returned, and although I fancy him physically there's a block there. I don't want to have sex with him. I'm still mad at him, still hurt.
And it wasn't like he was actually sleeping with her, so it feels stupid to feel this way when our day to day lives are now positive and good. But I do. Its just there in the background. How long until it fades? I'm still angry, I still want to get back at him, but I don't want to feel this way :(
Sorry for starting such a stupid thread but I'm at a loss. I've processed it and the result is this, I thought if I forgave him in my head the rest would follow but so far it hasn't. Am I expecting too much too soon? I feel like I'm being ridiculous!