has anyone else experienced this?

[shivy]

my mother-in-law passed away last summer.we have two dd now aged 16mths and 3yrs. naturally both me and Dh were devestated .we went through some tough times in the months after which of course were very difficuls.now myDH insists that he has dealt with his grief but he is not not same-cranky short tempered with the kids as if its all too much.i feel so sad for him that he cant enjoy this short time-theyre not small for long and i feel like we should cherish these early years.Both my parents are living so of course i dont really know what hes living with every day,

I don't have any real advice.
When my dad and step dad passed away within months of each other it was hell for a long time.
I ended up on anti depressants and tried to stay positive.
I don't think I was very nice to be around either and didn't cope too well with my newborn.
Time is a great healer, but maybe he should talk to his GP.
He probably still thinks about it a lot and its still affecting him.

My dh lost his father almost 4 yrs ago. At the time we had a dd who was 2.6 yo and a 6 mo ds. I felt there was a distance between us for a while. I would ask him how he felt and he told me he had many regrets, one of which was not being there when his dad died and not having the chance to say he loved him. I remember about 2 or 3 months after his dad's death he suddenly broke down and said it was getting harder not easier . All the first anniversaries were hard - 1st xmas, 1st easter and 1st anniversary of his death. Dh's mum is still alive so I suggested dh visit his mum alone for the 1st anniversary and have time to chat with her and visit the cemetary etc. One thing I did say to him was life was for the living and to concentrate on his children as his dad had done and given him some wonderful memories from child hood. Dh did "come back" as the same man but it takes time.

im sorry new to to this and didnt think my message went in. Thanks so much just needed reassurance i suppose.we had a good chat the other day and he said he is aware of what hes been like.things are better now but of course its very early days. These things are to be expected