H was admonished by the PF last week.

[Sackache]

Hello everyone that knows my sorrowful tale....... H appeared in court on Thursday for sentencing after it had been deferred for 6months. He was given a slap on the wrists and sent on his way.

He's now living with his new girlfriend and wants the kids overnight every Sunday.... although he's still not coughing up the maintenance!

He hasn't seen the kids since the week before Christmas!

tit that he is.

Anyway, I'm doing fine on my own. Just bought a laptop so should be Mumsnetting full force by next week.

Miss everyone.

Toothache (must change nickname back!)
x

Good to see you, Toothache. I'm sorry you're going through such crp with exH but you sound so* much happier and stronger.

Hi all.

Well, things have taken a wee turn for the better..... kind of.

My Gran died last Saturday (extremely ill and suffering horribly so it was a relief for all, including her ).

When H found out he texted and offer to help out with the kids for the funeral etc. So he collected them on Wednesday from their child care whilst I attended the funeral and dropped them off at the house when I got home! First time I've seen him for ages. It was odd..... but I was well-oiled from the wake. He was very pleasant.... NICE EVEN! the kids were running about mad showing him all their new toys. he stayed in the front hallway coz I never asked him in. He asked me if we really needed to go to mediation since we seem to be able to be in the same room as each other. I said I'd still be going and it was up to him.

He commented on how much weight I'd lost.... saying "is that the wine diet?". hmph. i said No it's the "don't have my driver anymore diet".

And he asked to have the kids overnight on Friday. I thought hard about it and said yes. So they stayed there on Friday (at H's girlfriends house).

I've been to mediation and I'm going to push for him to go too. There are things he needs to hear that he's totally glossing over.... like that fact that ds is so traumatised by all this that he's wetting the bed again.... that he's not working at school and never gets out at playtime.... that he's so scared that when he goes to bed his Mum will just disappear like daddy did.

Anyhoo, that's the situation now.

AND I've got my laptop!!!!!!!

Thanks for all you advice.
PB-wise as ever.... but I most certainly had 2 stone to lose. i was 12 stone 2!

Hi Toothy

I too wondered where you were....

glad you can afford a solicitor - I think that if you have to rely on mediation you can be pushed or feel intimidated
for access though if it works for you, great.

well done you on
a) losing weight
b) giving yourself a night off
c) coming back to MN

Thanks MM!

The kids are going to stay at H's again tomorrow. Made sure to tell him tonight that I wouldn't keep packing their bag, he would have to buy the things he needed for them (nappies, spare clothes etc).

It'll be a real eye opener for him in the morning coz he's never had the school run to do! He'll have to be up at 7, dress them, pack their lunches, and get them to school 18miles away in rush hour traffic. LOLOLOLOL!

I spoke to him at 8pm tonight and it was SO obvious he was SHTEAMIN! And I could hear bird in the background hurrying him along. ..... maybe the honeymoon period is over now the kids are back on the scene.

shame.