Always going on about other women

[BluePenguin8]

I'm interested to know if anyone else has this problem.

DP is constantly going on about other women, both on TV and when we're out. New years eve for instance we were sat in a pub and he kept pointing out girls to me saying things like "your hair would suit you like that" or "see what she's wearing? I think something like that would suit you..." etc but this was happening all night and after a bit it does start to grate a little.

He's worse when it comes to the TV, take Big Brother for instance, friday night he knew I'd been waiting to watch it and he kept talking all the way though it saying stuff like "jo has got that Girl next Door look about her..." "Danielle is probably the best looking and I love what she's wearing, those boots up past the knee's do naughty things to me..." he'll then laugh as if he's just messing about but then he'll say something else like "Shilpa has got a lovely body but she's a bit too thin, I wouldn't be attracted to her in that way but she is pretty..." etc all the time I'm sat completely ignoring him trying to make it obvious that I'm getting irritated but he doesnt stop. The music channels are bad too "oo is that Emma Bunton? I used to have a massive thing for her..." etc

I know it sounds petty but it really is getting me down a bit, I don't want to row about it with him but I feel like one time I;m going to snap. Is it just me? is this normal bloke behaviour?

No.

It's normal git behaviour.

I'd dump anyone who found Danielle Lloyd attractive. Or Jo for that matter.

They both look like cheap whores.

It's normal bloke behaviour, although he sounds as if he overdoes it a bit. You could always try responding in kind.

Uh no, wouldn't say its normal behaviour.
Is he insecure and trying to make you jealous? Im usualy way off with these things though.

although having said that, i agree with expat about the relative desirability of the women he seems to find attractive.

is he gay?

Have you tried giving him a taste of his own medicine and comment on all the men on TV?

If you are suggesting he should have his hair like X, how he should wear clothes like Y and how you think Z is realy fanciable maybe he'll think twice about the comments he makes.

Alternatively just come out and tell him how the comments make you feel/are really annoying

Its not that it isnt normal, its the fact that it bothers you that is the problem.

Now me and DH would have conversations like that, along with a bit of bitching and sniping thrown in. We would discuss these things along with many other subjects.

The problem comes if you arent comfortable with it and feel that he is perhaps sujesting you should wear or do certain things that you dont want to.

Is that normal behaviour? I'd be pissed off if my dp went on an on like that.

He sounds really insensitive. The odd comment - well Ok but he is being really thoughtless to your feelings.

He should save it for when hes out with the boys imo.

He is a bit insecure but I honestly don't think he does it to make me jealous, he knows that would be extrememly hard to do as I'm just not a jealous person. He does it in a way that he actually wants a proper discussion over it.

I've had suspitions about him being gay but only because he acts a bit camp sometimes and he over-does the "women for me, gayness is horrible urgh gross" etc

snort @ is he gay?, sorry.

extra sorry at snorting as x posted.

Maybe he want's to piss you off to get some more attention from you?
Just random thoughts Im chucking in here!

Maybe he want's to piss you off to get some more attention from you?
Just random thoughts Im chucking in here!

sounds like he's dropping hints to me

I don't think it's "normal bloke behaviour", at least not in my experience. It's tacky and discourteous to continually bang on about other women. I wouldn't put up with it.

My last BF did this to me all the time and I hated it! I felt he was basically telling me I wasn't good enough and it really undermined my confidence. He would "suggest" I wear clothes that really weren't me - mini skirts etc, that he saw on other women. In the end I decided this was one of his ways of trying to control me, and we parted company.

I would tell your DP how this makes you feel in as calm a way as you can. If he then carries on doing it you'll at least know he either doesn't care how you feel or is deliberately trying to make you feel bad, and you can then make a decision about whether you want to stay with him or not.

Agree with lazyemma. This is not normal - I can't think of any men I know or anyone I have been out with who does this. Sounds like he is trying to undermine your confidence so he has more control over you. He is obviously a total wanker - get rid of him while you can.