Advice needed Ex and girlfriend

[Flatstanley69]

I have finally relented and let my daughter have Facebook. This morning I woke up to an abusive message sent through Facebook from exh girlfriend.
I haven't responded and have blocked exh girlfriend. I also sent the message to exh.
Now I do quite a lot for exh due to his ill health. I drop Dc's and pick them up from xh for contact. I also don't receive any maintenance.
Additionally I help him with filling out forms etc.
Do I stop all this? Do I not have my daughter as a friend on Facebook?
I'm at a loss having never spoken to this woman in my life.
Any advice would be appreciated.

Blindsider - no never spoken to the woman. However, ex did tell me that she had a problem with me and him getting on and my helping him by running the children to and from his house.

How old is your dd?

She's jealous of your good relationship with your Ex then is she?

Well it sounds as if your Ex currently needs you more than he needs an unbalanced banshee in his life, so she's pissing on her chips there really isn't she.

When you date someone with kids you have to know that however uncomfortable it feels, there is another woman in your partners life, possibly for ever, and accept it or move on.

Temping to reply "Mother is the word for God on the lips and hearts of all children"

I bet that would shit her up and confuse the hell out of her.

Don't you dare park around the corner! She has the issue, not you!

Your stbx needs to make this situation right. A decent man would end it with the psycho now!

Totally agree that you shouldnt park away from the house.

He needs an ultimatum. Either the abuse stops, including from her family, or the lifts stop too. And that if there is one single incident with her speaking to your children like that or about you like that then contact will stop until you are assured that she will have no contact with them whatsoever.

Bogey - the problem I have is my son goes too and he has Asperger's syndrome. He went mental at the idea of not going today. Blamed me saying that it's all my fault. Feel really stuck to be honest.

Hissy - Thank you, however I believe the girlfriend is quite the drinker so don't want to put myself in a situation which may potentially escalate especially with 2 smaller ones in the car.

I am sure that it must be hard, but would you rather deal with your son having a meltdown because you are keeping him safe or a meltdown because his father didnt?

Bogeyface - your right, I didn't look at it like that.

I dont mean to be glib, but given that she is just next door and seems to be a nasty drinker, I wouldnt put it past her to turn up when the kids are there. Thats not a risk I would want to take and your ex needs to understand that.