I last post a thread on here about an emotionally abusive partner.
I had a baby one year ago , I went back the work full time to a new in March and things have gone down hill since then . My partner left in March to live back with his mum 35 miles away ( he works near his mum too ) in effect i first thought we was breaking up but I've been in limbo . He comes down says he wants it to work says he wants to be a family but then goes back to his mums the next day . He's Jekyll and Hyde , I never knew what mood he was going to be in and for a couple of days he would come I would feed him and then he buffer of for so many days thinking this was totally normal
We had a row the other day anyway and I asked him to start respect me . I said I just wanted to know now what was happening were we moving forward or separating because it's horrible being in limbo and we needed to sort things out financially to . He stated he didn't know what I was talking about his mum had already changed her council tax three months ago ... But followed this up with I wanted us to
Be a family .
So we're seperated
We had the little ones 1st birthday party all his family was invited including his mum . And he was coming too. He came a couple of hours early and took out on his own for 2 hours from 11 . Before the party he told me by text all his family hated me and not to bother speaking to them he said they were here for him ( I had invited them all through fb months ago ) it was so awkward on the day I tried my best to speak to his friends and family , who were all nice , but they could odviously tell it was abit awkward . Every time I tried to get to my son , he told me to go away and leave him alone . That he was dealing with him . Or I didn't need to be in that room . When I was talking to his family at the end of the day . He can him and asked to speak to me in the kitchen now !
He said I shouldn't be speaking to his family and stated he was taking my youngest to his mums house it was now 6:30 pm
I told him it can't happen . His mum had every possibility to be here . He said she didn't want to see me or my family but she had the chance to come before the party with him and spend time with him elsewhere and she didn't
He left my house and then I sat down with my two children to open my youngest presents and they were missing . I rang him and he said he had taken them all because his family had given them . !!!
That's my rant over
My youngest has now started nursery I work full time ... 37 hours . He works 6-7 days a week ) because he consumed by his job - manager ) he keeps changing the goal post in terms of assess , he was demanding him 2 days , then 4 , then 6 ... It's hard because I know he's taking him from me to give to his mum just to spite me . I want to be fair but no matter what I agree too he wants more . What is suitable weekly assess
Sorry if all doesn't make sense