I have been with DH for 15 years. On the face of it we're quite similar but actually we're totally opposite. He's fairly traditional and sedentary. I am unconventional and like getting out and about.
I became the main earner nearly 5 years ago. I've always managed finances and ran the house etc. DH has only really started picking up some slack a couple of years ago, and even then it's like pulling teeth. He's not a communicator, really he's pretty passive aggressive, and I often feel like he wants to be my son rather than husband.
We are kinship carers and our kids have been really challenging. Late last year things came to a head, our youngest was getting really aggressive and he started saying he resented me and the kids. We had couples counselling and he talked about how he found me overbearing. The counselor was very sympathetic to that. He did however pitch in a bit more after that.
So fast forward to now. He's been signed off work for weeks now with depression and I am still needing to cover off everything. I suspect he is going to leave his job and has blamed his depression partly on me.
I love the guy to bits but I can't cope with him any more. I know I could cope without him, after a fashion. I almost wish l had let him carry on instead of smoothing it over. At the moment he isn't saying he wants to leave.