Why am I obsessed by Gay Man?????

[lavendaroil]

I am in a new job and my trainer is gay and we geton really well. At first we just had a laugh but now I wait for his texts and see how he replies to them. Like adding a kiss or not. I find I try to find reasons to contact him. I plan my time around his day and I have no idea why!!!! If I see him at work I am so pleased and miss him when not there!! I don't want to have an affair with him but why do I have this obsession? It seems to come before everything. I even said I could work late so we could go for pizza after work but he said not that day and I was gutted. I even call and ask questions just to spk to him!! I have lots of resepct for his position as he is so modest. I did get some attention at first but now it is less and I hate it when he doesn;t put a kiss on his texts.
I am a married woman with 2 kids, why the obsession with the gay man!!!!!!!!!

"soupy thought better of you" ??

Don't get all holier-than-thou with me. I never called you a troll or anything, I was sceptical because of the really bad choice of name, I pointed out that you'd chosen a bad name and said why.

"thought better of you" god that's so patronising!

pass the popcorn

potz, what's your real mn name then?

Gay men are safe like has been said plus they can be sexy as hell, take Captain Jack aka John Barrowman - got tons of female followers even though he's just married a man!

So do you all think Lavender is still around? Blimey she must have a serious attention seeking disorder if so. Did anyone ever meet her in RL?

There is no way that anyone who has been here for 6 years would use a lavendar related name to post about a sensitive subject

All the signs were there to suspect this was Lavender. Anyone who has been around for 6 years, and is a 'prolific poster' must surely know who Lavender is/was.

didn't lav have a penchant for exclamation marks as well?

maybe you are a closet fag hag

I would say enjoy his company, but try to avoid obsessing about him (eg looking forward to his texts/planning your day around his) because while you may have a space in your life for an amusing, gay man flirtation he may not be feeling in need of a bored, slightly frustrated, married woman. If you start chasing after him it definitely won't go unnoticed in a work environment and you're going to end up looking a bit of a prat.

(BTW The original Lavender could spell the word correctly, which made me think that it wasn't her when I first read it.)

no probs isn't old lav, didn't she used to use lots of ..............as well?

you can spell it both ways AFAIK?

disgusted with the 'patronising' remarks of some of you. Gutted gutted really. I do vaguely remember who you are talking about and I explained why I used the lavendar name btw, wouldn;t accept lavender as already exists???
Never had anything negative said to me on Mumsnet so this is a first I have to say! Oh well I suppose some of you get entertainment out of it. Shame that my post is only interesting as it COULD have a been a troll that everyone disliked and is now gone.

now i'll be off too, I deserved that didn't I, really I did.

i wouldnt bank on all gay men being safe

one of my best friends who i always thought was gay, who told me he was gay, who had a long relationship with a man, one day told me he now thought he was bi and had really strong feelings for me.

that went on to become him asking me on more than one occasion if i would give him a chance to be with me, turning up late at night unannounced and that kind of stuff

i told him no, i thought he was confused, as well as too young even for me, and now he wont speak to me at all, and i lost his friendship

gay or not, if he is a friend then you risk it all going horribly wrong by taking it any further

I don't think the op is as prolific as thought. Hence not recognising the name lavander as being dodgy and I'm also guessign through the posting style. I don't think it is a troll.

ok, to play the amature psychologist I think that you are bored and are looking elsewhere for excitement. The gay man seems safe, and not a betrayal, but you are desperate for attention. You need to speak to your dh and sort out your relationship with him.

Sometimes you think men are gay then they surprise you as happened to me recently when I found him staring at my breasts and then bum. Then I found out he was living with a woman! and had a son!!