DP is going to a night out at work and staying the night because he has work tomorrow (they have bedrooms there, some staff live there. it has a bar/club house which is where the party thing is and where the bit people live is attached to the bar)
I dont know whether i should be suspicious that he apparently needed to go and buy new underwear to go out, it seems a bit odd to me.
for background it's likea reuinion party thing for all the staff (people leave quite a lot) and i think a woman who he lied to me about is likely to be there.
ill explain the lying about the woman thing-
when i was about 8 months pregnant, he was ignoring my phone calls al night (we didn't live together) and said he'd been at home,
it was obvious he hadn't, i could jsut tell somehow so (wrong, i know) i checked his phone.
He'd called this woman about 20 times at midnight.
he told me he was calling her because he couldn't find his friend and she was with him.
obvious bullshit because he didn't even try to call his friend once.
apparently it turns out he was calling her because she and some other people were meant to be meeting him at a friends house (where they went after drinking at work, they were all meant to leave and go to this friends house) but they hadn't turned up.
I still don't believe him about any of that. it took a year to get that version of the truth out of him (i KNEW the lost friend was a lie and it just drove me mad knowing he's told me such a shit obvious lie)
anyway this was all 3 years ago and i've put it behind me mostly because i don't know if anything happened, and tbh, we hadn't been together long and i think i'd forgive him anyway if he had. i got fed up of trying to get the truth)
He also told me that he was trying to set this woman up with one of his mates, but then later said she was married, so one of those is obviously a lie too. And another time i went to a work bbq with him whilst heavily pregnant, before the phone lying thing, and he kept leaving me on my own to go to the bar to talk to this woman, seemed annoyed if i came to speak to her too and was talking to her about his ex and her ex, just seemed inappropriate to me
but now i'm worried.
Another thing that is worrying me is that he was INSISTANT that he stay the night at work tonight.
which makes sense because it's easier for him, he has work the next day and starts work at 7am so, that does make sense. but i also have work tomorrow at 7am and DP usually drops DS off at my parents for the day (He works 2 minutes away from my parents, i don't drive and my parents car is broken.) he i had to arrange for my parents to have DS overnight, because he didn't want to come home after this party thing.
would this worry you?