So mad!!

[bjornbaby]

I'm 26 weeks pregnant and my partner doesn't drive. He has know I'm pregnant since January. Since then I've been nagging him to take lessons as he will need to drive me to hospital when I go into labour.

We have no family nearby (at least 2 hours away) nor friends as we have recently moved to a new area. Plus I don't want my parents or anyone else to be put in this position. I also do not want my mother at the birth as she is very panicky and high stress.

Partner has just told me he's started to look at intensive lessons but the next available driving test is 2 weeks before baby is due...

I am so upset and angry right now. He is assuming he will pass first time which is ridiculous but also baby could come early! And I am not going to feel confident in a car with him after he has 2 weeks driving experience and needs to do 45min drive to our hospital which involves busy motorways...

I am so disappointed and just needed to get this off my chest...I wish I could drive myself but I know that's super dangerous.

If anyone know of any miraculous ways to book earlier test dates let me know!

Fuming...

You need to work on the assumption that your DP will not have passed his test in time, and plan accordingly. It might not be your DP's fault necessarily - if the examiner is off sick they may have to reschedule, for example.

Talk to your midwife, you won't have been the first with this problem.

I am not comfortable having a home birth. It would make me more anxious in fact!

Although I agree he should have sorted himself out sooner

Could you learn to drive, OP?

I am just planning now to go by taxi. Il buy a carry car seat and find a cab firm that will take women in labour.

He has apologised and knows he's been an idiot!

I just need to work on the plan B now.

Thanks for the help

Imperial - I do drive!! I would drive myself but have been told that it's pretty reckless to do as will be in pain / distracted

Is there anyone who could lend you a carry seat for the purpose of getting the baby home in a taxi if needs be rather than having to detach yours?

Also, is your fixed car seat rear facing?

I will buy one - don't know anyone with spare.

Yes my fixed car seat is rear facing...

Yes OP drive yourself whilst in labour that should be just fine

Not sure about trusting a newly qualified driver to drive you either as if you are in proper labour it could stress him out too!

Ask around for a car seat to borrow to use in a taxi for the journey home. Some taxi firms do provide seats. Don't sit baby on your knee in a taxi for that length of journey.

Good luck OP.

I would go with taxi there and get a family member, your mum? To drive you home afterwards. It would be less rushed than her dropping everything whilst your in labour and I am sure she would like to meet the baby anyway.

All of our family live 2+ hours away. If my mum came she'd have to stay at ours for a few days and I want the first few days just me partner and baby so we can adjust.

My mother is quite overbearing and I don't want her around for labour or immediately after the birth.

Taxi is the way forward; so will be looking into this.