Without making this too long, I am interested in opinions… I have posted before in the ‘unsatisfying marriage’ thread and noted marriage concerns in other thread.
I put up with a lot of emotional abuse over the last few years and on some occasions I should have been stronger and left. I haven't been perfect either but over the last year or so I tried to warn DH that every incident was chipping away at our marriage and my feelings for him. There were good times too, but these seemed fewer and fewer and outdone by the bad times. It came to a head after he went away on business for a week. I didn’t miss him at all, felt relief and freedom on my own. He didn’t call over the week but msgd me a few times.
On his return he told me he’d had a realisation that his behaviour over the years has been unacceptable and that he understood if I didn’t love him anymore...?! I responded honestly to say I didn’t know if I did, told him that I hadn’t missed him when he was away. Since then he has been behaving like a completely different man, basically the opposite of how he was in the previous 6 years before. Everything I could ask for. He keeps telling me he’s terrified of losing me etc etc has seen a dr about possible depression. But, I’m finding it really intense, like I don’t know this new him.
I asked if something happened to provoke his ‘epiphany’… as I had been trying to tell him this for ages. He claims he simply did a lot of reflecting. I am struggling with the intensity of it all and trying to understand my own emotions.. as in can we still work. We have two kids in the equation so it's far reaching.
It’s only a week or so in, but can a DH really change so drastically and keep it up?