want to rant just asked DH this morning to fix something and he sulked doing it

[wotzsaname]

cant beleive this always happens, there are so many little things "that i cant possibly do properly" to quote, and when i ask him to do for the 100th, he gets into such a big fat sulk.
I have lots to do at weekends as i work all week. He works too, but the weekends arent full of domestic chores like mine. Im fecking fed up.
Im not talking to him now and he has gone out to to buy a curry because i havnt had time to go shopping.
We finished docorating our bedroom last Sept and we are still in the spare room as he hasnt built the ikea wardrobe units to finish the room. I cant touch them as "bits will go missing".
My dd had a hook missing for her blind for nearly 10 months and i had to wrap the cord around a drawer handle. I couldnt do it "as i would ruin the plaster". in the end my BIL did it without telling him. He hates any one else doing the jobs more than me nagging him. Dont get me wrong i could do it but i think he is becoming a contol freak.

FWIW i am allowed to cut the grass, do the gardening, wash the car, decorate, change lightbulbs, take the bins out and use all the electrical appliances in the house.

aaagggghhhuurrrrr.

Ive just finished redoing the whole bathroom...honestly just do it yourself...its a lot easier.

lol we moved here in July and I am still waiting for some selves to go up. I will admit that it was a new build so couldn't put up selves straight away but I think we are allowed now.

Do you want to do mine CC ??

I meant shelves

but he such a control freak, he goes over what i have done.
My confidence is going slowly away to even do stuff.
Good for you doing bathroom though.

Yeah Nutty Anything to get out of watching the dds playing the playstation!!!

Just do it, honestly, dp initially stood at the bathroom door saying Hmm not sure if i like that colour...Hmm the walls look a bit shit...so I shut the door in his face and refused to be dragged down by his comments.
I got the loo seat that noone liked, and a half price blind.
Brought the floor tiles without consultation and have glossed today. It looks FAB.
And even dp said ...youve excelled yourself...for once
But I blocked out the "for once" bit and took the compliment as im sure it was meant

charliecat there may be light at the end of the tunnel.

I painted the kitchen in the piant "he hated". Bought some curtains for the bedroom, "which he wasnt sure of".

Its just that i dont have any one else to ask for these little favours to get done. I would happily pay for someone. The curtain rail was coming making a whole in the plaster, that caused the rant.

How much of the bathroom did you do, do you do the plumbing and tiling?

No plumbing needed. We did the tiling on the walls when we first moved in. I did all the tile cutting and he put them up on the walls.
It was painting, glossing, cleaning, riping up of old floor, filling in holes and repainting as well as the floor tiles that ive done.

You have my sympathy in huge amounts. Dp doesn't sulk, but always takes ages to do anything and accuses me of "finding him things to do"

We have been in this house 5 years and still have no kitchen floor and unfinished kitchen.
No skirting board in 1/2 of dining room. I can decorate, tile, and paint, but can't do wood.

The garden is "my area" apparently, but all climbing plants looking like jungle as all trellis's are hanging off wall. Hedge which I can't reach hasn't been cut for 2 years. Climbing rose which I can't reach is now as high as beanstalk (as in Jack and the)

Some of these things I can't even mention any more, they have become so contentious. When I try and do them myself he accuses me of making him feel guilty, and putting him under pressure.

I have given up. Outside of house looks like Adams family, inside looks like building site. Feel angry just writing this

When I get really pissed off and say get someone in to do it, he says we can't afford it.....feel like screaming

CC I hope you can enjoy your hard work with a soak in the tub and a large glasss of wine, or what ever your choice is. .

my rants calmed down, although DH has come in with tonights meal for me to cook, and for food Sunday lunch.....but wait.......he forget the chicken, so Ill still have to do food shop tomorrow anyway. Might get a little and get the rest online.

Today I have 5 x wash loads, 2 hours ironing, washed and re-hung curtains (due to curtain rail falling off), cleaned kitchen, all meals, all washing up, made DD1 an evacuee outfit for Wednesday, Taken DD2 to a club in the morning and then a party in afternoon (wrapped presents and card etc). Both dds homework. oh and been on mn moaning. feel better now and have opend red wine.....yea. .

Havent a penny so am supping on your wine fumes

oh fizzbuzz know what you mean and i will never make a snag list, or to do list as it just winds me up. My DM doesnt know why i dont pay for some-one, but he just wouldnt let me hire them (wouldnt do it as good as him as its not their home). urghhh

I have cut trees and hedges so much the year before last knowing that i might have a year off. I use a broom to drag the braches down (while on ladder) to then chop them off. He just comes out and says pointless comments.

DD2 wrote in her school book, topic about her family, that "mum does everything" and dad watches TV. I made him read it. LOL.

Dp wont do the garden.....but he fecking stands watching me from the front door/kitchen window commenting. WTF is that about????

LOL maybe they are twins seperated at birth

Now feel v guilty, because dp does do a lot in house re housework, and mending and networking 5 computers.......just the rest drives me * MAD!

Does your dh really not do anything but watch TV?

Charliecat, that would drive me insane. Suggest staking him to a plant that needs some support...then he will be useful!

he does, but i cant think what right now. Its deffo not 50/50 though.
As they say "out of the mouths of babes".

I swore this year if he didnt help get Xmas stuff up and down. I wouldnt bother next year. he didnt. he did take tree out, its still in garden. I will of course do it beacuse of kids.

I once didnt wash any of his clothes and he had no underwear. He must of noticed it was getting low in his drawer, but said nothing until the last one. that made me laugh.

Yes our garden is also full of junk....