Hi there,
I started being more than friends physically (and emotionally) with a friend a few months ago, and then a few weeks she told me she felt things had gone too fast and spun out of her control, as well as feeling pressured at the fact people we know are labelling us as an item. She also said that after having a nasty ex, she didnt feel ready to be fully intimate with anyone else yet. I was fine with the idea we would slow down and said I had no problem waiting until she is ready, but now when we met up a week ago she says she meant we should just be friends, despite the fact when we talked a few weeks ago she specifically said she did not mean she only wanted to be friends.
I feel I really like her as both a friend and more, but I wonder if I should wait around for more? I mean often "not ready for a relationship" means I think I can find someone better or I have decided I dont fancy you after all.....but then it seems weird to go into details about how she doesn't feel ready for sex etc if she wanted a way to end things. Maybe someone else has been in this situation on her side and some insight? I really don't know what to do, and I also sense she would be upset if I told her I had started going on dates with people. On the other hand I want to meet someone, and its not realistic I can hang around indefinitely in limbo. I would feel weird about it too I think (although I suppose I shouldn't because she is the one who has told me friends only).
Its also tricky to get advice because I don't feel I can tell even my closest friends the full details, because I am sure she would not want people, who know her too, to know the full reasons she has gone into with me (hence asking anonymously on the internet).