My dh has always been close to his older sister, but recently, he has not talked about her or visited her, over the past five months, which is not the norm for him. I did ask him a couple of months ago, he had any problems with her, and he said no, quite dismissively, and did not wish to talk about it.
I have not had a good relationship with her since dd was born as she was very interferring in our relationship and on how we did things, to the point that dh was and I had many arguements about it. It caused a lot of stress and problems, and I am worried that she has upset dh again by saying something about our relationship. She has been very controlling and has behaved like a spoilt child on many occaisions. I will not go into detail with some of the cruel things she has said and done, which has also caused problems with my mil.
I really do not want to visit her unless he tells me whether they have had a disagreement about me. This has happened last year summer and dh kept it to himself, and I later found out.
There are not many other things which dh could upset her about other than me. Should I ask him or not say anything until we have to visit her? I don't want to visit her if there will be a lot of tension, and also want to know if she has any further problems with me so we can sort it out, as it gets so tedious. Especially when you think it is all getting a bit better! Any thoughts on this welcome.