Dh is from a poverty part of Asia dont know how relevant that it is he never had nice things or toys etc growing up and most of the toys the dc have (3 dc) are from dc 1 before dh got his visa.
They get the odd toy on birthdays and a toy on Christmas from my mum.
He wont let me spend any money on the kids that is unnecessary 😕 younger 2 arent allowed new clothes.
He is very controlling and argues about the ridiculous things like going out for a cuppawith my mum and sis.
Hes forever teasing the kids.
Makes me feel shit most of the time as he keeps nit picking little things.
Both of the eldest 2 dc beds have broke. He wont let me buy them a new one as we've managed to sort it out with a plank of wood. We used to sleep on a bed like that before we moved and I reminded him its not nice and hos reply was yes but we had 500stones in weight on our bed. I know im over weight but that takes the piss. I told him he can sleep on the couch while the kids sleep in our bed.
Went to the beach the other week and we couldn't find a parking space and he said if you say lets go beach on the weekend again just wait and see. Ruined the full trip
I cant leave as I have a disabled child who is in and out of hospital a lot and the other 2 can't go anywhere else so he has to look after them.
When we are not talking he doesnt do anything for the kids (currently not working due to dc situation 1 is really complicated the other has health problems and the 3rd is a baby).
just feel stuck. I deserve so much better.
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