my dh left on the weekend but now he wants to come back and I'm so confused

[cloneroom]

I have posted before about my dh. On the weekend he left and has been sleeping at his office tbh it's been a relief. The last couple of days there have been no moods no someone coming on at midnight.

He is coming back tonight (he's run out of clothes) and I just feel really worried as deflated.
I feel really confused about things because I don't feel like I want to split up with him but at the same time I feel like I don't want him here because things are less stressful.

To be fair if it was permanent he wasn't here things would quickly become more stressful because of money etc! But I hope you understand what I am saying!

I just feel so sad at the moment and I just don't know what to do or how to work out how I even feel. ?

[smilingeyes11]

he doesn't have to hit you to be abusive. Throwing stuff and you walking on eggshells shows that he is abusing you. Whether he wants to sort things out is irrelevant. You are allowed to say no to him.

[alittlebitofwhatyoufancy]

Yes that's my
Thread :) there is an old one from a while ago I was trying to link to as well about dh

[Dozer]

Throwing objects is physical violence. He's physically and emotionally abusive. Don't continue the relationship.

[alittlebitofwhatyoufancy]

My other post was 6/6 and was called AIBU to think dh is still punishing me for pregnancy. Username clone room . I just have no idea how to get a link!

[goddessofsmallthings]

This is your earlier AIBU thread: //www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/2661509-aibu-to-have-walked-out-of-the-doctors-crying-today

If you keep to one thread on the same subject you'll be able to chart your progress and responders won't have to search for the back history.

Have you checked your entitlement to housing and other benefits/tax credits/child maintenance in the event that you continue to find life without your controlling and abusive h more fulfilling than being under his thumb and at his beck and call?

[alittlebitofwhatyoufancy]

Goddess at the moment everything is in his name tax credits, child benefit etc . I did look on entitled to which showed me what I would get its about 2/3s what we have now

[smilingeyes11]

so he has access to all the money and you have none? That is another example of financial abuse.

[gamerchick]

Why aren't you claiming the child benefit? You should be claiming that for your stamp. Sort that out asap.