I have absolutely no idea what to do. I have no one at all to turn to and I feel utterly lost. I'm not expecting any replies I just feel I need to get everything out somewhere.
My husband works away all week, last week a thing popped up on my fb that he'd made friends with some scantily clad woman, a few days later another one popped up with a different woman. I asked about them and all knowledge was denied, fb must've been playing up!
He has form for secretly chatting with other women, not just on fb but over the phone, I have no idea whether he's met any of these women. I suspect he has. As this type of thing nearly split us up last time (a few years ago) I rightly or wrongly logged into his email, his password had been changed the week before so I had to reset password. All emails had been deleted up until a few days ago (he had thousands before then!) there was just 4/5 in inbox and a few in trash, the rest of the trash had spam had been deleted when password changed. Long story short some of the trash ones were led me to believe there was more to it so I logged into his fb. He'd sent quite a few friend requests within the past few weeks just to women, women he doesn't know, had asked for one phone number of a woman who was apparently someone he knows wife (strange in itself as he's not friends with the man!) He'd cleared all his activity log but not the search at the top. This showed that he'd searched for sex in our hometown, one night stand/swingers etc. I asked about this and first I was the bad one for looking then he didn't know why he looked - curiosity and childishness he claimed.
During an argument about that I was told to get out of his house! I refused, we carried on arguing and it came out that he's been talking to a woman at work very regularly (no number on phone, she's never been mentioned but his phone bill shows they talk a lot!) Her number was screenshotted in his photos. I text her she claims they're just friends - I have no problem with that so why has he hidden her for 6 months?! I talk to my colleagues of both sexes, wouldn't cross my mind to hide it! He said he didn't say anything because I may get the wrong idea based on what happened a few years ago!
In between finding all these things out I asked his is there anything else. No he said. I know him, I know when he's lying and tbh I still don't trust him after last time so I knew in my heart there was more.
I don't know what to do now. I haven't slept or eaten or been to work since Saturday. It's just been constant arguing. How many times do I let him make a fool of me? We have other issues in our marriage so it's not a bolt out of the blue. Part of me thinks I should've just left him to it and pretended nothing was happening whilst switching off and sorting myself out.
I've got to do something, this can't carry on.