I have been seeing a man for around 9 months. He is the most thoughtful, attentive, kind man I've dated for years. And he's very keen on seeing this as long term. We've had a lot of fun together including nice trips away also seen a few difficult things together recently. All my friends are delighted and really like him and see both of us really happy.
Friday night however, we were out and at the end of the night we were making arrangements with other people. He went to ask his friend something. Friend was in a small group including a woman I don't know. My bf went over and greeted the woman with a huge hug and grabbed her bum and fondled it. When I went over I was introduced by someone else as bf's gf. The woman said 'you're not bf's gf...his gf is blonde'. Now I don't think he has another gf, I think she's referring to his ex, who is blonde. I am angry and upset about him grabbing a woman's arse and what that says about his real attitude to women. She didn't seem to mind at all so I'm guessing there's some kind of history but really I would have been surprised if he had greeted me like that. if one of his friends did that to me I'd think they were a right creep. And if my ex did it to me I'd be livid. I haven't spoken to him about it because of having visitors and a wedding to go to yesterday. He knows there is something up. We have quite a lot of plans for the summer including a holiday booked. At the moment I can hardly look at him. I don't know how to discuss this or what to do. My default position is LTB. I was hoping I wouldn't have to with this one.