I'm feeling really confused by something that's happened.
I've always had low self esteem and low confidence, and recently had some counseling to help with this. It helped me see my feelings are valid and important, and they shouldn't be minimized and what I want isn't unrealistic.
My son has been struggling in school for a while, he has difficultly with his writing and concentrating, school have been very unhelpful. They don't want children with additional needs there, and have made this quite clear to several parents.
I have been getting referrals for him myself, and been going to a parents support group, and been trying to be calm and sensible in my approach, to hopefully get the best support. I think things though a lot, and try and take the right approach. We have seen some professionals who agree with me and agree that school are being very unprofessional.
I have talked to my husband a few times about how unsupportive school are, and am very upset after seeing occupational therapy who were very helpful, and said his targets set are impossible, and it's no wonder he's struggling in school.
He never backs me up, and thinks there's nothing wrong, apart from the writing. He tells me I'm over sensitive, I need to get the OT to say exactly what it is etc (which has now happened), i.e. Putting it all on me. Minimizing what I'm saying. Or just not really talking about it.
Then this week he speaks to a friend (someone involved in school) and says everything I've said! Including how school are unsupportive, but saying it's how he feels. He told me he ranted, but stands by what he said.
I asked him why he called me over sensitive when I tried to talk to him about it, and he said there's no point spending all the time worrying about it, and it shouldn't take over our lives.
I mentioned it to a friend and she said she's glad he's being supportive, but it doesn't feel like it was a supportive thing to do, and the person he told can't change anything.
I just feel very confused and something is bothering me about it.