30 weeks pregnant and caught boyfriend arranging to meet another woman...

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Any thoughts on what to do?
He reconnected with someone he had an affair with years ago ( when he was with his wife).
He has been pretty crap throughout the pregnancy - I caught him texting arranging to meet up with her - initiated by him although the first part of the conversation was deleted... He says he never did but I am horrified at his ability to lie and deceive me - especially whilst I am pregnant.
His intention to meet her is a betrayal of trust - he thinks that only sex is cheating! I do not agree.
He refused to show me their messages/conversations so I do not know what has been going on and don't believe a word of what he says.
We both have children with previous partners so I am currently trying not to make any rash decisions but I am so angry and feel so betrayed. Is there any point in trying to sort it out - or is it a case of once a cheater...

I know it sounds pathetic but he really has lots of great things about him. I am quite shocked and feel very confused about everything

All mine.

Next time he goes to work change the locks and pack up his stuff. You already asked him to leave and he won't. You caught him doing something unacceptable and not only does he disagree but he tried to blame it on you. If he's that miserable he's free to go. Just give him a little push

He does not have anything great about him...whatever the good parts might be are completely wiped out by his utterly disgraceful, twatish behaviour towards you. If he doesn't like the sort of person you are he can fuck off quite frankly.

How dare he treat you like that, OP. IMHO, the cheating is the least of your worries.

What support do you have around you? I think you're going to need it

If you accept this it's only going to get worse. He is the male that your DCs see regularly - is this what you want them to see.

Someone can have a million good qualities, but once they're cheating and hooking up with others and quite simply insulting you, then that should trump everything.

So he doesn't fancy you enough for intimacy at the moment?

Cheaters love the thrill. Cut your loses and turf him out of your house.

He needs to go. Now.

Actually what he needs to do is behave like a responsible fucking human and look after you not criticise you.

In the absence of this you need to be without this crap.

What a complete arse.

Why in gods name did you get with a man that cheated on his wife all the time?!?

He told me I am making him mentally ill

If that's the case he'll want to check into a secure unit for treatment. In order to facilitate his recovery tell him repay the money he owes you immediately and check out of your house no later than noon tomorrow.

What are these "great things" you talk of? Does he have a giant gold plated dick?

If the house is yours/in your name, then definitely make him leave - pack his bag, change the locks, so long saddo

He's a prick, and trying to blame you and make you feel in the wrong - how fucking dare he??

He sounds too annoying to put up with even without the other woman!

Don't ask him to leave...tell him

One drop of shit in a delicious cup of coffee still renders it foul. The nice parts do not justify staying with someone who treats you like this. Get your Big Girl Pants on and show your kids you are better than this.

It's your house! Kick him out. Where he goes is his problem not yours.

Who can help you change the locks and put his stuff out? If he kicks off call the police.

Pack his shit up, leave it out front, change the locks. You owe him nothing. Cut your losses with the money he owes or keep some of his stuff to sell. That's probably illegal, but I doubt you'll get cash from him otherwise. Guy sounds like a twat. He's 'open to meeting someone' when living in your house, with you having his kids to stay and pregnant with his child?! What a tosser!