First off I must let you know I am a man but I really need some incite from a woman's perspective....
I have been married for 9 years and we have been together for 13. We have two sons (5 & 7) who I love more than anything. However I recently found out that my wife was having an affair with a teacher at my kids school who is nearly 20 years older than her.
Firstly I was very shocked, angry and threatened to throw her out. But she said she loved me and it was all a huge mistake. However since then she has meet up with him again and continued the affair to the point that he left his wife and rented a new house wanting my wife to go with him.
She admits that we were happy before the affair but did say that her desire for me was not what it use to be. She says that she cannot imagine ever growing old with anyone else except for me, that I am a brilliant dad, great husband and a good provider but she has experienced a new partner who is more confident in the bedroom and she says she loves him too but she only sees a relationship with him lasting 2 years if she goes.
I have tried to give her some space and respect that she has a very difficult decision to make but I am now getting to the point where I want to end it because she can not make a decision either way.
I never thought I would be in this position and I certainly never wanted someone else partly bringing up my children.
I still love her but can we get past this??? Can desire come back???