Strong relationship, but been ripped apart

[Rosewine72]

I finally found who I think is the right man for me, known him for 4 years nearly and lived together for a year. The only problem is he has pyscho ex 😞 She has caused so many problems, telling lies about me to her dcs to turn them against me, accusing me of running her over, swearing at me infront of the children, encouraging her dd to send me nasty texts and gloating to everyone. She told her sister she was going to split us up but just because she's not happy so she wants my dp to be unhappy. She sees the dcs when it suits her, and even then she's always bringing them here for this and that disrupting our day/weekend .
I have said I'm moving out as I just can't take anymore but dp talks me into staying as he said it lets her win, but his dcs are rude to me, his ex has got it in for me it's a nightmare. Does anyone else have these types of problems or is it just me?

I think you need to focus on your own DC in all this - how are they being affected?

I would definitely move out until things have been resolved with the ex, but you may find it's just easier to date rather than live with him.

I wouldn't put myself or my DC through all this stress.

Daisychain you make perfect sence thank u, we will see, I have been a single mum for 7 years so I'm not scared to be on my own, I just can't move out like that I have no money unless we sold this house , nowhere to stay, he would probably need to be the one that moved out. My dcs are happy fortunately they haven't seen hardly any of this and luckily they are close to both myself , my dp and their own dad. My dd does have issues with his dd they don't always get on if I thought my dcs were unhappy or stressed I would somehow be gone, there's still a strong possibility I may have to be gone or ask him to go but I'm trying not to move my dcs again and stick by my dp, but only if he sticks with me. If he stands up his dcs make sure they treat me with respect , like me or not , and his ex is given clear boundaries which can all be put in a court order apparently then that is a start.

I can't unfortunately just move out like that .

Shame I can't be Michelle in corrie with a friend that has an empty flat lol