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Help! What's a decent excuse to get out of a wedding

15 replies

fizzfiend · 09/06/2016 00:23

I have a wedding coming up that I just can't face going to. I'm separated, a single mum, and just not feeling up to this huge event (it's a friend who I've known for a while). The main point though is it's becoming a bit of a bridezilla nightmare, with clashes of personalities and I just do not want to go. There are 250 people going so I won't be missed, but what is a good enough excuse? Any ideas? Please!!!

OP posts:
Tartyflette · 09/06/2016 00:25

Family birthday/other similar occasion?
Opportunity for weekend break?

Tartyflette · 09/06/2016 00:26

DC sporting event?

purplefox · 09/06/2016 00:26

Childcare?

SandyY2K · 09/06/2016 00:27

You'll be out of town

Aussiebean · 09/06/2016 00:27

I'm sorry, I already have a prior commitment that day. Congratulations and have a wonderful day.

purplefox · 09/06/2016 00:29

Have you already RSVPed?

Redisthenewblack · 09/06/2016 00:39

Childcare is an easy one.

Myusernameismyusername · 09/06/2016 00:39

I usually just either go for a very short while and drive then leave or I say I am committed to something else like family

2nds · 09/06/2016 00:43

No one needs to give a reason, I'd say it's a personal matter and just leave it at that.

OlennasWimple · 09/06/2016 00:44

Depends if you have already said you will be there...

Vriksasana · 09/06/2016 00:56

You have all of my sympathies. I'm a single parent as well. It can be tough, watching all of that love and happiness, on your own, with a smile stapled on.

What about ''sorry, flights already booked hat weekend!'' to.... somewhere cheap (ish) flights to see an old school friend/cousin in Ireland/ your aunt's 70th - nothing too razzmatazz like a weekend in vegas that will require an elaborate lie afterwards. Just a lie that you can say, oh yes, i went, it was lovely to catch up with her.

Iknownuffink · 09/06/2016 01:01

You won't be missed.

GarlicSteak · 09/06/2016 01:15

If this is imminent and you've already accepted, I'd just not go. Send a card and present when they get back from honeymoon, with a note full of loveliness and a couple of lines saying you were devastated that you had to miss their wedding.

If it's about turning down the invitation and it's all getting a bit EastEnders, it barely matters what you say as someone will be highly offended! Just give an excuse that can't be rearranged - a minor but crucial surgery, perhaps?

Bogeyface · 09/06/2016 01:32

If its this weekend then the money will have been spent so D&V is the best way to go. They wont want you there with that.

If you havent then childcare issues is the best thing. An elaborate lie about your Mums 70th will soon be exposed when it happens again a year later!

Bogeyface · 09/06/2016 01:32

If you havent RSVP'd

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