Embarrasing DH's

[shilpafan]

Just interested to know what your DH's do that embarrass you when out and about in public, I want to know its not just me and mine!

The worst ones for me are:

He talks to anyone, he will start up a conversation with absolutely anyone and will go on and on and on at them, this is usually people that are busy (people behind the tills in shops) or people that are obviously wanting to get on and not stand chatting - its made worse by the fact that he does it even if there is a massive queue, he doesnt seem to realise/notice or care that he's holding up queues etc, you see people rolling their eyes as we leave, including the person he was chatting too.

Another one is that he's VERY VERY open about every detail in his life, he tells people how much he gets paid, how many credit cards and loans he has, his minimum payments, how much they have left to be paid etc...he even told a completely stranger that we met on the internet etc etc! he makes people feel really uncomfortable and you can tell they're just not interested and are feeling awkward!

One of the most irritating ones is the way he gets money out in public, for instance we'll go for a meal and at the bar whilst waiting to be sat he will pull out a wad of money out of his pocket (never uses a wallet) and usually say something stupid like "kerching" and he'll then count it and start going on about how much he's spent that day, how much more he can afford to spend and how much he can put towards the meal etc. He somethimes makes this worse by pulling out money and saying something like "right, I have £25 here..." and then he'll go back into his pockets and start counting out all his change etc before saying something like "oh! and I have £10 in change which means Im pretty much loaded so Ill get a starter too!!" but he says it really excitidly and loud, it makes him sound about 12!

Lastly, he messes around so much in shops, in toys r us he'll pick things up and play with them, try to scare me with rubber spiders etc and runs around the aisles just making an idiot of himself, he's so loud with it too and quite often bumps into people whilst he's busy messing about which just irritates them! (and me!).

So am I nit-picking or do you have some examples of your DH's annoyingly embarrassing behaviour?

When i read this it made me think of Richard Madeley. you're not Judy Finnegan are you????

, god he does sound embarrassing. This sounds familiar though, have you posted something similar a while back.

he reminds me of him actually! thing is he's a big bloke (6.2"...18st) so when he's running around toys r us bumping into people and knocking things over it makes me want to attack him.

Have you posted about this problem before? It sounds familiar.

It does sound familiar..........

Was he like this before you married him????

My dh is auditioning for Big Brother.................now that will be embarrasing if he gets through, he is a total idiot who looks and acts like Jim Carey 24/7.

OMG Totaleclipse, I would leave him

Why are people married to, or dating, or whatever, people they think this little of? Seriously, if my DH thought I was a total idiot, I'd want him to leave me.

I do find my DH sometimes a bit difficult or embarassing or whatever, but nothing on this scale.

i remember reading about this problem before. and this is the same guy who gave you a hard time on hols?

I have to agree with NQC - why are you with him when you clearly don't like him all that much? I was reading two of your other threads yesterday, and you didn't have anything positive to say about him then either!

Life's too short to stick around with someone who you think so little of.

Well that's the point isn't it NQC? If your dh embarrases you this much the realtionship is fecked really? This reminds me of beeing a teenager and deciding that you want to dump your boyfriend and suddenly everything he does is embarrasing or annoying.
If this is true Shilpa fan, leave him and let him find someone who loves him for who he is.

i remember reading this one before too

Carmenere pmsl

If he gets in I might be very tempted after a week or two

I would leave someone for acting like Jim Carrey 24/7 (or even some of the time, tbh). Well, I wouldn't get together with them in the first place, more like.

I would be mortified.

My dh is the exact opposite, doesn't "do" small talk which is embarrasing in itself. He smiles beatifically whilst some old dear in Waitrose is wittering on about the price of cabbages, which is fine, but then just walks away from them. I need to train him in the art of conversation with strangers.

Judging by your 3 different threads showing that your partner/DH (his status seems to vary somewhat):
a) ruined your holiday,
b) embarrasses the hell out of you on a regular basis
c) doesn't like the way you wash the dishes

I would suggest either:
a) you sit down and talk things through with him
b) you take action to end what is apparently an unsatisfactory situation for both of you
c) you trip trap off to hassle other billy goats gruff

Sorry to be so blunt.

Am I missing something here?
But so what if this has been mentioned before??? I've not come across shilpafan before and this seems like a normal Mumsnet, harmless thread to me. And so what if she's moaned about her DH before, loads of people do.

If I was out of order I apologise.
I just noticed that Shilpafan posted 3 messages in a short space of time enquiring as to whether MNers agree that her partner is a PITA for a wide range of different reasons. She may just be venting, in which case I suppose it's fair enough, but reading the third thread, which also rang a bell with me, I suddenly felt a bit suspicious.
Hence the third suggestion.
The first two were valid ones, though: sitting down and talking these things through would be more helpful than posting lots of threads about how and why DH is useless, annoying, immature, etc. Once again, I am very sorry if I was out of line.

he sounds lovely to me ,but except for the getting money out thing ,im afraid we are almost identical !!!!

Yawm....read this before

I think he sounds okay actually, maybe a tad embarrassing but better to be socialable and chatty than introverted and anti-social. I guess it all about what you can stand personally though.

I'm sure I've seen this post before .. last year sometime? or something incredibly similar

Twig, I think this is the one you were thinking of