Basically H had an emotional affair which I found out about in April. He never met her as she's in another country and I'm fairly certain it's over.
Where I am now is that the whole mess has made me realise that I'm not actually that happy in our marriage and now I'm not sure what to do.
Basically I don't ever feel that he will ever be totally trustworthy again as previous to the EA he used to fib about insignificant stuff anyway.
I actually don't care whether he's still in contact with his ow.
I don't like the way he speaks to me sometime. I feel he can be quite horrible for example I asked why are you getting annoyed and he said because you're annoying ! Maybe this was me being over sensitive but I've thought before I didn't like how he speaks sometimes.
He never makes any effort with my family, I think he's seen my mum and dad once this year and they only live a few miles away. To be fair he doesn't really bothered with his own family either but sees them more because he has to.
Whenever something comes up that he didn't want to do he's suddenly "ill".
I'm worried that if I do leave, I'll just be swapping one set of problems for another!
Most of the time things are OK until something else crops up!
Do I just put up with it cos it's not that bad?
Or do I leave and maybe be happier or more sad? Just don't know. Help!