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[Psan]

I am in a relationship for 5 years now he is 54 and i am 56 Everytime we argue he locks me out of the house for days. lately he has resorted to putting chains and locks on the gate also. The fights is not even severe its about we struggle to communicate and he refuses to discuss it at all. I can only touch him if he SAYS so etc. As if i do it otherwise like hugging him he would complain he is watching TV etc. all the food i pay for well basically most things i pay for Sometimes he would ask what am i going to do to entertain him....he has never even bought me a gift. The problem here is that i am truly in love with him and i do not want to loose him as there are times he is fine. any suggestions?

What do you love about him?
He sounds like an abusive prick.

Hang on ... what? Why are you still with him?

Whose house does he lock you out of and where do you go for "days" until he lets you back in?

In what way does this controlling arse man enhance your life to the extent that you are convinced you're 'truly in love with him'?

As it seems you have two threads on the go www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2654997-confused I suggest you ask mumsnet to delete this one before anyone else becomes confused, OP.

Suggestions?

Wake up and see him for what he is. An abuser who locks you out when you argue.

Is it his house?
If so I suggest you find your own place to live.

You pay for most things and in 5 years he's never bought you a gift.

Sometimes the things we love in life are bad for us. A bit like me and chocolate. Abusers continue because the victims allow it to continue. Only you can get out of this relationship.

If your hypothetical child told you about this relationship would you tell them to stay in it?

Common. Get a grip.

I think the question you've really got to ask yourself is why you are 'truly in love' with someone who locks you out of the house for days for his own entertainment.

Here's a suggestion..... Stop being a door mat and get rid if this vile man. Then seek help about with you self esteem. Sorry to be harsh but you need a bloody good shake.

Who the hell moves house after a one off drunken shag?

Sorry wrong thread.