3dcs and desperately unhappy with a dh who shouts at me and the dcs about everything. He gets stressed by everything and we are all walking on eggshells. Granted the youngest dc is only 4 months old but we can't live like this with him walking around banging his head because the baby is crying. He is unstable (though I don't think he would ever hurt us).
Aside from him being stressed/shouting. We have not had a decent sexual relationship for years and there is no love or affection.
I have been kidding myself that I could keep going in this marriage for the sake of the children. But I don't think I'm the long term staying would be beneficial to them and their happiness.
But I work part time (shifts and can't work more days as my mum has the children on the odd shift rota I work) and dh works full time and although I very good with money we just manage to make Ends meet. If we were to divorce and sell the house we could not afford 2 properties- the mortgage the bills food etc. So..... I cannot see a way out. I have to stay for finiancial reasons. Don't I?