I have an ex who I am friends with, we have always had a very tumultuous friendship due to our history. He has a new girlfriend (she is the other women in our breakup) he doesn't know I know they're still together but we (she and I, he and I) have mutual friends who have told me.
He will always agree to meet me and then cancel last minute, he always lets me down, he rarely texts back. Yet, for the last couple of weeks he has been chatting to me, we've talked on the phone, been texting each other and it's been great. Last Friday we had phone sex, not for the first time, it was such a stupid mistake and I rationalised being the other woman by using the excuse that he cheated on me with the woman he is now in a relationship with.
i know there is no excuse and I have made a stupid mistake
His girlfriend has seen me out and has given me an "if looks could kill" look. This was before last Friday and for no reason I could think of.
I am so angry with myself and with him. He treats me poorly and I let him and even reward him. Now I have put myself in the position of being the other woman and if his girlfriend finds out she will be going through the pain and hurt I now am because he has started ignoring me and treating me as an expendable part of his life again.
I have discovered there is a part of me that wants justice and my justice is to tell her everything (I have the evidence on my phone) I want her to know she isn't special and he is still a cheat and I want him to know I will not lie down and take him treating me badly like this, but she doesn't deserve to get caught in the crossfire like this, no matter how much I hate him and myself for what we've done.
I'm expecting to get flamed for everything I have done. I just need some form of advice or common sense from someone. Thank you.
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Canihaveanamechange · 03/06/2016 19:33
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