Marriage

[mel30]

Hi, I am married to my husband of nearly eight year we have been living together for over ten and have 2 kids aged 8 and 1 years old. I love my husband and have no doubts in my mind that he loves me.I just wonder is love enought? will it be able to get us though the rough times. I have had a particually rough last year with my lovely stepmother passing away unexpectently ( i miss her so much) and many other family problems. ( not to do with my Dh).He has admitted that he is being a prick when it come to supporting me but has yet to do anything about it. I come form a divorced family and have always said i would go to the ends of the earth for a stable family life for my kids, but i dont want to live in a dreamworld and then we have no relationship to salvage because we have lost the love we have for each other through the arguements.I would try and walk away with a friendship and hopefully a decent realtionship with my kids dad.Am i giving up to easliy is it worth the risk that things could get better?

No love isn't enough. You have to work hard at supporting each other through the difficult times - remember the vows you made? For richer for poorer, in sickness and health, etc?

YOu need to sit him down and have a serious talk about how things are going and how you're feeling and - critically - what you want from him.

Good luck.

Thanks , I have actually done that many times and have been told that he will change, it changes for a couple of days and then back to the same thing. Ihave always beleived marraige s need to be worked on and people give up to easily but i just worry that things will get worse. I love my dh, i dont want to make him feel bad all the time, he is an amazing father and my best friend.

In which case you just have to keep going and keep on at him! Sorry, I know it's easy to say. But at least you clearly love and like him (most of the time )

Have you considered counselling? It might help him to realise just how serious you are.