In short, my XDH is an alcoholic and drug abuser. We have do DC 9 and 12.
It was the main factor in our breakup 4 years ago and he's has several relationships since which have all come to a head, likely due to this
Just over a year ago he appeared to have hit rock bottom. His relationship with his girlfriend had needed badly, he'd lost his business, wasn't working, no money, health declining and just had nothing going for him what so ever. None of this was his fault in his eyes, but that's the classic narcissist in him.
Despite our fractured past I agreed to try and help him to sort his life out and get straight again. I did this purely for the kids. The adore him and he does them. He went to the docs and had a few sessions but it all faded out to nothing and he said he was clean.
A few weeks later he met another lady with her own family, quickly fell In love and waltzed off into happiness with her. She is lovely and I was pleased he seemed to be doing ok however I've recently learned that this relationship has hit the wall now as she's tired of his confined drug and alcohol consumption.
So not only did he never stop, he just carried on to the point where he's loosing everything once again.
I also discovered yesterday that he picked our children up after he had taken cocaine and for that I am furious that he has endangered them so much.
I've said no contact now unless supervised with them but what else can I do?? I'm really at a loss. I don't want this in my kids lives but they love him to pieces.