Not much context, I'm afraid. DP and I have very different approaches to conflict in certain family relationships. DP wants me to take his side unquestioningly and argue his corner against family members, to the point almost of telling me what I should say. Tends to be in the heat of any upset. By nature I prefer to wait until the immediate heat has gone out of a situation, think carefully about how to put my view and send an email rather than make a phone call. More time to think about what's being said and why, more chance to get it right. Problem is that DP tends to see an immediate response reflecting his view is a matter of fundamental loyalty. My own view is that real support might lie in a more considered dialogue, perhaps telling both sides that they might need to adjust their positions. It's causing major conflict between DP and me!