Just spent the weekend with mil from hell!!!

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I have just spent the weekend with the mil from hell. As a result my head is pounding, I'm in a horrid mood and spent the entire journey back arguing with dh about her!!!!!

That's what I'm amazed at too, hazlinh. After all the things she said to me and names she called me (nice things like Whore etc) and my family I didn't get any kind of depression so soon after giving birth.

My DH did try and change my mind but I simply WOULD NOT let her see him until she apologised. I think I would have left DH if he took DS to see her against my wishes, he did understand why I was doing it and 99% of the time was fully supportive. I truelly believe that she would still not have seen him, or met his little brothers if I had not accepted her half hearted and pathetic apology. To be honest that would be absolutely fine with me, I'd be a very happy woman if I never saw her again.

In fact I'm off already..... when my MIL comes over here on holiday she brings something for dh that he wants usually aftershave or similar, usually some kid crap for the kids which they will like/eat! and hands me my gift with the comment "if you don't like it you can take it to the charity shop" one particular gift that stood out was a brown and tan flower patterned "big" scarf that they tried to pass off as a sarong!!! Actually they do this at Christmas too.... I had a needlework box one year with a box of cotton from Lidl's.

Big sympathies to all these stories, they sound a nightmare. My MIL is great, but even she can be incredibly manipulative when she wants her whole family (4 sons, 3 wives, 1 partner, 3 grandchildren) all around her, which is not that often but enough to mean a lot of rearranging stuff so as not to get in her bad books. However, I don't think it's just men's mothers who can turn nasty as in-laws windypops - my maternal grandmother called my dad "Dan" for years (Dan was the name of my mother's first fiance who she split up with when she was 18).

Hey Jampot, at least you get presents! My MIL has never sent us cards, much less presents and DS is her only grandchild! Once when we were staying with her she threw all out stuff out of the window (9th floor apartment) because she was jealous of me 'taking' her son! Needless to say, I don't waste my time with her, life is too short.

How about this one. Mil brought ds a race car set for xmas. (In fact we had to go and get it for her). I sat down with her, went through the instructions and said you need batteries with it is that OK? I'll get them if you want me too. No, no it's Ok I'm more than capable og buying batteries. So I left her to it. Brought in a load of AA batteries for all those thoughtless relitives that buy prezzies that need batteries but don't buy the batteries. Forgot the race set was D batteries. Mil and fil come round xmas day with loads of prezzies for ds & dd. But guess what no batteries. The prezzies required a total of 8 D batteries. So mil gave us £1:50 to buy them!!! I was furious, ds was so upset he couldn't play with the set. Mil then says to ds your silly mummy she hasn't got any batteries for you. You'll have to tell her off how thoughtless can she be. So for the rest of xmas day my ds kept saying naughty mummy!!!!!

Mine lieson the stairs in the dark wailing!!!

Dh works nights so didnt get to seeit. Needless to say ds and i walked over her to go up and down. She is a huge attention seeker and insisted on dh taking her everywhere despite dd being just born. She insisted being taken to a party the day I came home with dd as the poor lamb hadnt been out all day.
Fortunately we only see them every couple of years and they are the only thing dh and i argue aboyt.

OMG you poor things. I am now feeling VERY lucky as the worst I can accuse my MIL of is being a bad cook!

lol cd, mine is okay aswell, just a bit dopey. SIL is another story

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Aghhh, there must be some positively nice MILs surely? Worry a bit that when DSs grow up their partners will think am awful even tho will want desperately not to be... (Mine is Ok btw tho FIL is pretty grim)

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Ghosty - I'm astounded, that would drive me mental. and Jampot I totally relate to what you mean. My PIL are the same but with a boat rather than a caravan. It's caused more grief amongst all the siblings than you would imagine but hey, FIL thinks buying a newer one is a great idea. He seems to be a bit of a control freak and I think the boat was his way of retaining some control over all the children.

am I allowed to sort of join in with a couple of sil stories? Haven't got a mil. sil used to visit regularly when she needed us to look after her ds. Now she NEVER visits. Two classics while she was visiting were - leaving her ds's dirty clothes in a pile on the kitchen floor next to the washing machine, without a SINGLE word: no "I need to wash these have you got some things of yours I can put them in with?" or even a "are you going to be putting a wash on? would you mind throwing these in too?" NOT a DICKIE BIRD. (I deliberately put some washing on while pointedly leaving hers on the floor )The other was after feeding her ds fishfingers in the bath (fine by me, who am I to care) but then leaving the soggy fish finger detritus at the bottom of the bath for me to discover (and clean up) the next day when I was planning my precious escape to the bath and listen to the Archers hour...

I think any inlaw stories are welcome.... How does everyone get on with their fils?

Ooh fil's I can do..
Mine came up to me and dh on our wedding day and said "you're looking a bit fat son" No congratulations, welcome to the family or anything. He then created because his friends (who dh and I had met once) weren't sat on the front table with him and threatened to leave (Our best man told him to sit down and shut the f* up as we were about to enter the room) And he left (without saying goodbye) at 7pm, because he wanted to go and get a decent meal!

mines a tosser.When dh and I had rough time and he decided to leave me - for 3 months his advice to my dh was "make sure she doesn't fleece you". Not how are my 4 grandchildren and are you going to support them. he is a complete womanizing git and has no balls . Has ben married twice to mil and the last time he left her he packed his bags when she had gone to pick up her grandaughter for a weekend visit ( my bil dd ) and when she got back he was gone !!

I love the idea of a womanizer with no balls

ok he is a complete coward and probably has no balls because mil hacked them off- hopefully

what about Coddy's philandering MIL did she ever get busted?

Mine is great, I think a large part of that is due to the fact that I can't understand what she is saying a lot of the time

My fil is dead from the ankles up ! he is such a lazy git, he lies on the settee all day, his settee is the furthest away from the TV, so the sound is up lound, so if you are sitting nearer the TV you get blasted. Nobody is allowed to tounch his remote controls, they are beside his copy of the radio times, which he has highlighted all the programs he wants to watch. We went to visit 3 weekends ago, and ds was actively playing in the lounge, so fil turned the volume up louder to drown out ds, it was horse racing - you can imagine how annoying that was.

Also when we go down there, we don't get fed properly, Ive always got a stash of food in my bag, my mil must think I'm food obsessed, because I keep mentioning it.

Oh and also (got me going here) my fil went to the toilet and I went into the lounge and saw a empty seat (his settee), when he returned to the room, he just stood in front of me, waiting for me to move. God I hope dh, doesn't turn out like him - I'll leave

Oh and once his diary was open on his coffee table and I noticed it had got Thursday - must wash hair - as if you need reminding !!!!

My fil doesn't agree with me tellING the kids off. He thinks they should be left alone. Yeah right. Oh and he always fills his pockets up with the little pencils from Ikea everytime we go!!!

gold 123 We never get fed properly when we go to mil. Every single time for last year or whenever it opened after we have been there 1/2 hour mil gives dh a tenner and he is sent to get them macdonalds. She never ever makes a meal for them and I always get some kind of fish pie( I don;t eat meat) with overcooked frozen veg and then tinned fruit with carnation milk!!

my FIL has made it clear he would be a much bettr grandad if dd had been a boy needlees to say we try not to see him too often

Although my FIL is fairly docile now when dh and I were dating (but still living apart) dh came round to collect me in his Range Rover (he still lived with his parents) so I could collect my car from the garage. His dad came with him and when I went out to get into the driving seat (can't remember why) his dad had his hand on the driving seat with his middle finger sticking up!!!!!! Filty dirty b*ard. Also he used to ask dh what it was like to f**k me and was I tight (his words) - I do treat him with such disrespect now.

I feel soooo much better now and vindicated!! My mil and fil did not speak to dh for 6 years, then they got back in contact before I became pg. Then they had the cheek to complain as we weren't married at the time. they never helped, nothing. then dd born and they like to take pictures of her and show them about but never buy her a present not even for birthdays! she's only 2!
DH does not get on with family. Bil's wedding and fil announced that he only had 1 caring son and we weren't allowed to be in photos etc. Now we see them rarely and even that is too much. They are not nasty nasty just thoughtless and selfish. I think this thread could run for ever!!