Going to Relate for the first time tomorrow - feeling nervous.

[fannyannie]

I want to go, badly, as I want to make this relationship work. DH reluctantly agreed to go - and I'm so scared that at the end of it he's going to turn round and say that he actually wants us to seperate. Also I've no idea what to expect never been to anything like this before.......

Yes I'm definitely feeling more positive. Going to put clean sheets on the bed (which I've mainly been sleeping in) and ask DH tonight if we can at least sleep in the same bed (no strings attached IYKWIM) if we're going to try and make something of our relationship again.

I'm not going to wait too long - I'll talk to him tonight and perhaps see if I can get an appointment for me for 2 weeks time - then he can call and make an appointment for himself after that.

The sessions are £36 each - which is affordable (just) and I definitely now think it will be worth it.

I think another thing that was hard was that correlations were made between the way I deal with arguments, and the way my parents (or should I say my dad) always did. I guess it brought back a lot of "issues" from my childhood which I'd tried to simply sweep under the carpet as "part of growing up".....

yes I remember that - esp. with dh. The way you conduct your family relationships is supposed to be modelled on how you saw your parents conduct themselves.

Very revealing.

Glad you are feeling more positive FA.

Dimple I have a practical question; how much are the reduced artes. We have no disposable income at the mo. 40 quid is defo too much.

rates

BTW is that you QOQ's??

Sorry, ignore that

Missed this until now....

I know you are not out of the woods, but neither of you are giving up without a fight, which was my worry the first time you posted, with this new posting name.

So a tentative..................

monkeytrousres - the reduced rates are on a sliding scale, I think you can even get it for free or as much as you can afford. There might be more info here

I echo what Sherlock said - although you may feel like it is the end of your relationship by going to relate you are both showing that you want a way to stay together.