OMG I think i have a problem with relationships

[jampots]

As is well documented on MN my dh and I dont get on due to his lack of respect of me and his ridiculous behaviour and controlling manner.

His parents havent liked me since we bagan our relationship but were ok with me before. DH went out with my best friend before and they didnt like her - dh is an only child and adopted. To say they fawn over him would be an understatement.

We traced his birthmum about 4.5 years ago and ive always got on with her. Last night dh went to see her. She never calls us or visits our house ever despite only living 25 miles away but is happy to use our drive as a parking area when she goes on holiday as we live close to the airport. She told dh last night that she doesnt phone us because I once complained about MIL always calling which I wouldnt havent done as she doesnt phone that often. I think she is looking for an excuse not to phone and thinks she can put the blame at my feet.

Also my sister appears to have gone off in a huff and we havent seen her since the week before xmas - still no presents

Despite all this I have plenty of friends so where am i going wrong. It really cant be a case of "im right everyone else is wrong"

jampots. You are lovely.

Is it at all likely that your DH has put a bit of a 'spin' on what his mum said???

Can you not ring his mum, and politely explain that you are sorry if she got the wrong end of the stick, blah blah blah, hope that she feels she can call whenever she wants, blah blah. Do this all within earshot of DH, and then, you are redeemed totally if she still doesnt call.

His parents - well, i think they are just typical IL's really.

As for where you are going wrong....there seems to be a strong, central connection here.........

jampots I have situations like this too. When people talk about karma I just think to myself in that case there are a whole lot of people I need to go and shit on.

I think nice people like us put up with people we should tell to eff off. That's where we go wrong. We give too much benefit of the doubt and then get bullied and manipulated.