snooping

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how would you feel if your partner went through your phone....

Cross post with Hermione, who said it better!

My husband and I have the same passwords, we swap tablets/ phones often. But we have complete trust, if my husband changed his password and started guarding his phone I would get worried.

i just dont get why he would do it! i didnt need to confront him as he found a message from a friend discussing a conversation id had with an old (from 30 years ago) boyfriend saying how i can do better than this one and he just sucks the life out of me! i was honest with him though and said yes i had spoken to him but the conversation didn't go any further. i don't have anything to hide but i guess sometimes you can go on anyone's phone and find something you don't like which is why you shouldn't do it! I have absolutely no reason to not trust him, however is the reason he's looking through my phone to find something so he can maybe justify the fact that he is doing it? either way we are now separated as I have been sneaky because i never told him about the conversation :-O It wouldn't be so bad but i literally don't go out without him.....it's over anyway so it's pointless trying to look at what is right or wrong.....

I have no issue with dh using my phone.

I do have an issue with him snooping through it.

We run a business together, so if his phone is dead he may use mine to check email or make a call. Or even answer it if I am not about. But he wouldn't dream of checking text messages or my own email.

We have a shared dairy for the business and family, so he doesn't need to check anything like that.

To me it's like reading someone's diary.

I didn't say it was Okaay. But for me it is. I'm not bothered by it. Obviously if someone snoops it's because of a lack of trust. If my DP did or does snoop he would be bored senseless

mummyto2monkeys if you truly have complete trust then you wouldn't get worried if he started guarding his phone. It seems like you only trust him when you are able to check up on him, which I think is not trust at all. If you trusted him, there would be no need to check, and you wouldn't get suspicious if you were no longer able to.

My OH has access to my phone. He uses it for stuff like satnav and thing a sometimes. That's fine. If he went rummaging through it I'd be livid. The mood diary I keep for my psychiatrist is on there. I stop feeling I can be totally honest about that, I stop being able to track my moods, that is one major tool I use to stay well totally rendered useless.

I think in general, snooping is bad. I wouldn't read through his phone either. He has a right to privacy. He's my partner, not my property.

Furious because its bugger all to do with them and a control thing.

Saying that, my best friend has complete access to all my stuff and is the contact for my life on the cloud should i be released from this mortal coil.