My stalker is getting on my tits, help me!

[BillyBugGobbler]

I have a stalker. It started when I was painting the railings outside my house. It took 3 weeks and many neighbours stopped to chat in this time & comment on my progress. After the 3rd or 4th time he's stopped to chat I offer him a cuppa as I'm having one myself. He's a neighbour from 6 doors away but I live on a junction & he's around the corner so we've never met before. He tells me he's been separated from his wife for 5yrs, we have loads in common BUT I'm not remotely interested & NO flirting etc happens. Roll on a few more weeks & he knows I'm OLD. Under further questioning he reveals he's 'separated' BUT him and his wife/teen dcs all live together & a divorce hasn't started! Next thing I know there are stars coming out of his eyes. I get rid sharpish & make mental note never to open the door again without checking. He does knock, I avoid, all ok. Then one day I forget, thinking it's the postie I open the door to see him with a stunning bouquet of flowers for me & he asks me out to dinner! Needless to say I get rid pronto. Then it turns nasty. To cut a long story short he then trolls my dating profile in the lowest most degrading way, grooming me. I'm ashamed to say I was royally duped in the beginning & fell headlong into his trap revealing intimate personal details. I had to report him 3 or 4 times. I got really good at recognising his fake profiles, as time went on they became more elaborate but he'd often slip up revealing tiny details I'd not put online so I knew it was him. Next thing he's 'accidentally' just bumping into me in town, walking past my house at school pick-up time and his latest special, jogging along my route at exactly the same time. Everything 'accidental'. I never engage. I ignore, ignore, ignore. I'd love to tell his wife but I don't want my tyres slashed. I've spoken to everyone locally & no-one's acquainted with them?! He's getting on my nerves, what can I do?

Hiya again:)
Please go to the police, if not tonight then tomorrow morning and report his behaviour to them. Sorry if his wife needs to be dragged into it (mine was single, so no experience there but I'd think they would be 'sensitive' to the situation?) whatever, should she be collateral damage, so to speak, in the fallout, then it's his shit to deal with, not yours. Silly arse.

Then, once you've done that, paint your fence, tie in your roses, carry on as normal.

Again, you've done nothing wrong. Please don't behave like his victim

Are you not listening to everyone who is saying disengage and call the police? It sounds like you're ignoring that advice as you haven't even acknowledged it, you're merely asking how best to handle the next contact - it's been answered, ignore and call the police.

1. Go to the Police

2. You must have a friend, family member or colleague who is well over 6 foot, muscley and covered in tattoos. Otherwise pick a tradesman with that appearance. Pay them to do any work at the front of your house.

blank, I totally agree with 1), totally disagree with 2) I'm afraid.
Once OP has made her statement to the police, she should continue her life as normal. Any further behaviour by the stalker which impacts on her, the police should be told about, for them to deal with, I reckon.
Just do it!

I didn't realise there had been a previous that about this (not that it matters).

Forget my previous advice - I agree with pp that you should contact the police, ASAP.

*thread, not that.