secret pics on phone?

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If you asked to see pics (just taken of you and DC) on your DP's phone but he just said "I'll send you them" and wouldn't let you see the phone, what would you think?
What would you say?

I wouldn't snoop, we were sitting on sofa and I just said can I have a look at the pics?

Your gut is probably right - you don't trust him so don't try again.

So he's given up alcohol then

And is no longer an abusive man. That is fucking miraculous.

I would find it weird if my OH did that. We often use each other's phones to take photos if it's the closest to hand and look through the photos each other have taken. It depends what's normal for you though.

Yeah... poor you. What a tough time. How old is your DD? Has she seem and heard the abuse?

She, the baby AND YOU deserve better.

Do you have family and friends? Who is your birth partner?

All the hugs.

My dh uses one phone for work and personal. His work involves very confidential stuff and I would never ever expect free access to it.

She (DD) witnessed some of the verbal abuse. That was the last straw, why I left.

He is my birth partner. Planning a home hypno birth, and he's been fully on board and doing and saying all the 'right things'.

Have friends who are great, but also busy with their own lives. They all think he's a good person who fucked up

My mum doesn't like him.

You could be the next Mrs Titchener.

I've told him its upset me. It was more his reaction to me asking to look. Very odd.
Now he's saying he's nothing to hide, I can look if I like (if there was anything then he's had time to delete anyway!)
Bla bla, all he wants is for me to love him like I used to, he loves me, I've said I can't promise anything at the moment. I'm very hormonal, and massively hurt by the things in the past.

Mum is right.

Your friends aren't going to be straight with you if he's on again off again and your birth partner.

Your poor DD.

Going to bed now, I'll be back tomorrow. Thank you

Sleep tight (yeah right with a kicking baby, but nevertheless).

Hope you're ok op

He sounds a great chap to be a doctor. Patient photos on his phone, abusive, a drinker, and indiscrete. Walk away.

Try again to suffer the same shite at his hands cos I guarantee you if he's abusive, it's going to take a miracle to change his personality, unless he gets a full frontal labotomy of a fellow doc.

As for the drinking - how long has he stopped, briefly I'd imagine.

On top of that he's hiding something from you.

Just read the a bit about your DD, it gets worse and as for your friends, they are saying that to be polite, your mum has it right.