I'm 7 months pregnant with our first child together (we both have children from previous relationships). Together 2 years. Our sex life to start with was slow in terms of variation and I put this down to him being shy. It started to grow over the first few months and I got to thinking it would just get better and better. By the time we started living together the sex started to become less frequent and more "samey". Cut to now and he has absolutely no interest in sex whatsoever. He doesn't masturbate. He doesn't get erections and I'm lucky if I get sex once a month, and then only if i have really pestered. Same position every time and he doesn't wait for me to climax. Max 5 mins. I am not backwards in coming forwards and telling him this is a huge problem. He is currently using my pregnancy as an excuse but that doesn't explain why it has been like this for a year or why he has no sex drive whatsoever. Surely he would at least wake up with an erection. I just feel like he has absolutely no desire or attraction for me at all. He talks about having baby in our room for 12 months after born. I say that's far too long and how would we go about resuming our sex life. He is happy to have a 12 month get out clause. Then there will be another reason no doubt. He is a fair bit overweight and Ive tried to help him lose weight, cooking exercise etc. But even when he did nothing changed. He has now piled it all back on and makes no effort to lose, eating junk food and sweets every night watching tv. I don't want this for the rest of my life. Sorry got the long post or if it's tmi but I'm so upset and rejected right now.
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