Ok so now it's 'over' need some practial ideas for help with childcare

[ClosetSlob]

So, although dp and I didn't live together he had got quite involved with dd and although I used to do everything on my own before I have perhaps started to take this luxury for granted.

I need to start by arranging alternative childcare for the following this week (i'll worry about next week, next week)

So he would have normally, sat for dd tomorrow night while I go training
thursday night while I go training
I have a 9am meeting on Thursday which I can't be late for and he would have normally covered the school run for me

Or do I have to be realistic and pack all this in?

is there an emoticon to show a mixture of anger,sadness and frustration?

for the school run is there a neighbour whose child goes to the same school that you could 'swop' a day with?

Possibly, I don't know who though asI don't really know any of the school mums very well. I think dd said one of the girls lives down our road. I'll ask her if she can remember who and see if I can recognise them on tomorrow (don't normally do school run you see).

Do you think it's a bit cheeky though? I would be asking a complete stranger to have my dd for at least half hour before school

not if you offer to have hers another morning each week

let her drink her tea in peace

I can't though, that's the problem, I'm contracted 9-5:30 I try to get into work for 8:15 normally (except when I have to do school run). Nursery was so much easier!

bump.

purely because I am unable to do anything more than stare vacantly at MN today.

Have you thought about a c/minder?

((ps: Was reading the belt thread, have you's split now )) Sorry pet xxx

Also, if your dp is her daddy won't he still do the sitting & mornings??

he's not my dd's father.

I have a childminder but she's not available Thursday morning.

Thinking about joining sitters for my evenings but it would mean that going t training would become very expensive!

Right, then you need to call a neighbour, or maybe a friend & make a proper arrangement for Thursdays. I know when my dd started an after schools club I knew I would be at Uni so needed her picked up from school & left at the club. I asked at school if any other children went on the days dd did, there were a few so a lady takes her with her own kids. And as for the training in the evenings, do you have a friend/neighbour who would sit & emjoy the hours peace from their own kids?? If I were near you I would help out I love an hour with a magazine!! How long do you be away at training?

I'm out for about 1.5hrs on Thursday and 2hrs Tuesday. dd goes to bed as I go out.

See if any other mothers you know would be interested in setting up a babysitting circle, ie. take it in turns to babysit for free.

the problem there is I can't babysit for other people unless I take dd with me.. so returning evenings is out of the question.

I don't know how old your dd is, but couldn't you take a travel cot along with you? I wouldn't mind if someone wanted to bring along their child as well if they were enabling me to go out for a bit for free...

Just seen this thread and was wondering how you were as had been reading your thread about the belt in the car. So what happened? Did anymore come of it or have you separated for other reasons (Not needing to know) just wondered how you were.