dh having really tough time changing job - find it so disheartening

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my dh is really good at what he does but finding it hard to go up to the next level. I find it so hard the waiting to hear about all these jobs and then the disappointment. Keep thinking we're lucky to have each other and ds and not count blessings. It just seems so unfair - he gets really close to some of these jobs but is always pipped at the post by someone who has a bit more. I know he feels like giving up and I don't blame him. Don't know how to keep him positive when I feel so disheartened myself. any advice on positive thinking for someone who's running out of optimism?!

Has he asked for feedback? DH went for promotion twice, and felt down he didn't get it... until feedback said it was ONLY due to the fact he had had time off (bereavement). It really cheered him up knowing the reason behind not getting promotion. Otherwise, could your DH gain some more qualifications in whatever field he is in (if it's relevant)? xXx

Thanks quootie, yes his feedback has been you got down to the last two, the other person did a totally amazing interview so did you but they pipped you to the post.
Yes I think there may be things he could do to increase his edge. I'm working on those things with him now.
I think what I'm talking about is my desire for him to be big strong Successful Man who just gallops away and fights battles for us. (this is a largely subconscious wish for me - I'm not justifying it at all!) And I find it hard to take on board his not being the winner, having weaknesses, failing. I don't want to have to be the strong one! But I know this is ridiculous - This is what loads of women do - single women, women with sick partners, struggling partners. I just think I need to be loving, strong and continue to support him and boost his self belief. Despite feeling like giving up!